"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

[linayar]

I agreed that there is a passive aggressive tone in this thread and many threads here. It's really in the eye of the beholder tbh.

Even if it is in the eye of the beholder, what makes it passive aggressive to you? How is it any different to any other non-FFXIV posts/threads?

I see the same kind of posts and argumentation style in the WoW forum, for example. Is the WoW community passive aggressive too?

[Sotaris]

Is the WoW community passive aggressive too?

I wouldn't be able to say, I don't hang out on WoW forum and don't play the game enough to tell.

Sounds like you hang out there and play the game enough to say it is or are just you just speculating?

[VictorTheed]

May just be a crazy thought, a really bizarre and crazy outlandish thought, but maybe, just maybe, it's not the developers job in games to cater to peoples hurt feelings, it's the people and whoever they have a problem with to fix these issues themselves and developers should be focused on making fun interesting content and giving us the best deals financially for their product.

I know that's crazy, man I don't know where that came from, plz forgive me, that's not me at all, i must have ate some bad Reese Cups, I knew I should have had a Snickers bar.

[KizuyaKatogami]

That explains why it felt cult like.

Honestly this is what a lot of this community feels like a lot of the time xD Especially when it comes to giving criticism to the game, it feels like people are in this 14 cult where you need to love every aspect of the game and any criticism is wrong lmao.

[Sotaris]

Honestly this is what a lot of this community feels like a lot of the time xD Especially when it comes to giving criticism to the game, it feels like people are in this 14 cult where you need to love every aspect of the game and any criticism is wrong lmao.

"how dare you criticize our lord and savior yosheep"

[linayar]

I wouldn't be able to say, I don't hang out on WoW forum and don't play the game enough to tell.

Sounds like you hang out there and play the game enough to say it is or are just you just speculating?

I used to play the game until January of this year, actually, but I still browse the forum from time to time around news announcements time to gauge community reception, so I see the same kinds of discussions just like here, just the topics are different.

So saying that people here are being passive aggressive doesn't sound true at all when it's not unique to FFXIV. And that's even assuming we're defining the term the same way.

"how dare you criticize our lord and savior yosheep"

People can criticize and people can also defend.

[Exosapien]

This reads like you came from a game notorious for it's horrible community, heard that FFXIV has a better community (because objectively that makes no sense) and then came to it expecting it to be perfect and have no faults at all and now you want to fan some flames. There are definitely bad actors in this community, these forum provide plenty of evidence for that. Elitists, bigots, etc etc etc, no community is perfect.

No one, however, owes you "fights and arguments to resolve problems." What even is that? If you need to literally fight and argue with people get anything "solved" you're better off in single player games arguing with NPCs. In no way is someone dismissing you by being passive aggressive "just as detrimental" or worse than having a full blown tantrum on the internet.

No one is treating you badly for "wanting to talk, be social and make friends," while at the same time absolutely no one owes you conversation. Anyone can "refuse to speak" to anyone they want, not to mention you have no idea why people aren't engaging with you when they literally aren't speaking to you.

[Artemiz]

Is it really time already to have the "everyone is secretly evil in FFXIV and it feels like living in the hood" thread again? Time sure does fly, can't believe its been a month already.

[Escalon]

A just throw something in, I just got a "Official Warning due to Violation" for Point 3.3 Profanity and Offensive Language. It states today was the day of the offence, but I played a bit in the morning where I did run 2 or 3 Dungeons NOT saying anything all 3 runs. Now I log in and i'm being told I broke some rules. The last time I used profanity was about 3 or 4 weeks ago in PVP where I used foul language because people were literally throwing an win and it was extremely frustrating to watch.

Not toxic ? Bull...This games is full of "snowflakes" and OH GOD IF YOU DARE SAY SOMETHING MEAN!
I'm literally stopping talking to ALL players in the game. Not gonna risk my account because I might hurt some ones feeling. But hey, knowing SE I will be reported for being too silent too and they ban me anyway.

[Lunalepsy]

After having been here since June or July I can say this is the biggest lie that this game's player base tells and I am sick of it. This entire problem is promoted by the heavy handedness of this games harassment policies, making it impossible to have fights and arguments in a attempt to resolve problems that instead encourages passive aggressive behavior that is just as detrimental if not worse. At least when there is fights and arguments people know where another stands, what the problem is instead of attempting to ghost and being child like. If someone has done something wrong, no matter how petty one may perceive it no one is allowed to be critical.

I am absolutely disgusted, and I hate this concept of people wanting to talk, be social and make friends one minute but without warning having done nothing people suddenly refuse to speak. It's flat out hypocritical and disingenuous.

It's just a marketing gimmick. This game has a dark, ominous side.