"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

[Yeol]

"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

Generalizing is almost never true.

[Arazehl]

What a baited thread this was. So many bites.

[Tanis_Ebonhart]

I play a few other games and this community, for whatever reason, has the most toxic people I have seen. You may agree or disagree based on your own experience but you can not tell others what they have experienced.

Well, it isn't that bad.

Discord though for ff14 is garbage though. The mods there abuse their power and if you use modmail to report a mod the other mods will mute and ban you and give "no reason" nor any way to appeal. I really wish Square took a look at how toxic their discord is and start replacing all the mods there as none of them are innocent.

[Valkyrie_Lenneth]

Well, it isn't that bad.

Discord though for ff14 is garbage though. The mods there abuse their power and if you use modmail to report a mod the other mods will mute and ban you. I really wish Square took a look at how toxic their discord is and start replacing all the mods there as none of them are innocent.

There is no official SE XIV Discord. The only ones are fan made.

[AlyaNimfa]

If everyone is refusing to talk to you because you said something out of line, then I'd say they're taking the higher ground while you're spoiling for a fight.

I guess either this is a reflection on you OP, or you're just baiting hard.

[FoxyAreku]

Always been a believer that there really is no difference between game fandoms, all of them have people. And the average person is pretty unpleasant to be around.

[Necrogen]

I will preface and say i can count on one hand how many times i found "those guys".

Novice network breeds them. Many of these players are bored and believe is absolutely necessary to clog up the chat with mindless discussions that arent appropriate in novice chat. Coming back after a hiatus, i saw politics, religion etc. After speaking up about it, peeps defend their "right" to discuss it.

It didnt matter how many people say in chat that its disturbing them and prevents questions from being answered, so long as those who had credentials deemed it okay, the players fell on deaf ears.

Its backwards and shouldnt even be a thing. Not to mention some griefing. You dont pay my sub or anyone elses..DM people and talk all you want. Its not needed in chat.

[Fyrebrand]

Who is telling you that literally everyone who plays this game is open and friendly? Obviously they don't know everyone, so I suspect they were just trying to express what positive experiences they've had in the game but phrased it in a hyperbolic way. Your mileage may vary, and of course you will not meet the same people or have the same experiences they do.

Personally, I think this game does have a generally kind and chill community. However, that is coming from someone who is still leveling and not doing any extreme/ultimate or endgame content yet. I'm also not in an FC and don't really go out of my way to talk to other folks. So, most of what I see is just who I interact with in towns, open world, and dungeons. And so far, almost 100% of the time people are pretty nice. Players are not scared to say that they're new to a duty, people give tips when needed, tanks ask if they are pulling too much, and if there's a group wipe nobody gets mad we just pick ourselves up and keep going. I often get nice compliments about my glamour, and sometimes random strangers just come up to me and give me items for seemingly no reason without wanting anything in return. Most of the time if somebody asks for a revive in the map chat, somebody else has gotten them up before I can even get there.

What little "bad apples" I have seen so far are: 1) Some of the people on these forums (not naming any names, obviously) and 2) Folks getting grumpy in Alliance Raids because they don't like the Duty that Roulette gave them. Also, people seem to get spicier than normal in those Sky Pirate raids (Dun Scaith and the like).

I have no idea what your experience has been like, OP, and if you have had to deal with some genuine jerks then I'm sorry to hear that. We're all human beings here after all, and some of us are not great people. But every time I hear about how the FFXIV community is secretly bad and it's all a big conspiracy, I have to wonder what circles people are running in and how do they put themselves out there in the game. I've seen people making threads complaining about how "people can't take constructive criticism," and they post screencaps of their dialogue in a dungeon thinking they're the "good guy," meanwhile they don't even realize they are just being needlessly rude and not actually offering any help at all.

Another random anecdote: I was in Golden Saucer once and somebody was calling out how to get an easy 60,000 MGP for the Fashion Report, and offering free item kits as gifts for whoever wanted them. Call me crazy, but I thought that was a pretty nice thing for somebody to do, and counted in the "FFXIV community good" books. However, some random Hroth Bro decided to chime in, questioning publicly "What's the catch?" and basically accusing them of trying to scam people. They explained they didn't want anything in return for it, but Hroth Bro didn't believe it and continued accusing them of trying to get away with some kind of scam. So OF COURSE other people naturally told him off and pointed out he was being rude to somebody just trying to do something nice. Almost immediately Hroth Bro breaks into a "FFXIV community is so bad, look how I am being harassed" tirade. I mean, he could have just admitted he was wrong and apologize, or choose not to engage further, or simply not be silly grump from the start -- but I guarantee you, this dude still thinks he is in the right and he has this great tale of how he exposed the "toxic underbelly of the FFXIV SJW Tumblerverse" or whatever.

[Krotoan]

1) Some of the people on these forums (not naming any names, obviously) and 2)

I would like to comment that while I have encountered some of the "baddies" people describe in posts, I have literally never encountered people as contrary minded as I have on the forums , in game.

[suplejou]

This game has other "people" and a "community"? I wouldn't know since I have played this game single player for like 3-4 years now .

Every community has bad fruit. Take the real ones, discard the people you don't enjoy and thrive on Warrior of Light.