FFXIV's weird prostitution hangup

[Y2K21]

You're welcome to your opinions, however going into another thread.. telling OTHER people they're stupid looking and that everyone has to agree with you or they're stupid too? .. is this who you want to agree with?

Going into a thread about said topic is stupid is fine, the rest is pretty rough.

As for the topic of alt f4ing Balmung -- sure but what does it solve? Mateus has been the run-off for people who cant get into Balmung and is slowly transforming into Balmung due to that. People will just go somewhere else.

[Rinhi]

You're welcome to your opinions, however going into another thread.. telling OTHER people they're stupid looking and that everyone has to agree with you or they're stupid too? .. is this who you want to agree with?

and you'll be able to show the post where I agreed with the OP or their behaviour, right? right?

"is this who you want to agree with?" what's that supposed to mean or imply? not that I do, but I'm honestly curious?

[SannaR]

I wonder what kind of "pub/bar" did you went in because most of the times they have a webpage/carrd etc saying that their events aren't for everyone.

I wonder about this as well. Or if it's just a crystal thing or that the places I've been to even on the rare times I've gone to them alone were the less seedy ones. As it feels like it's a bit odd if not weird to have a person out of the blue ask you if you'd like to become a court. Since they did say they had been rping and a private room was given use to as long as the owner wasn't entertaining clientele. As I've never seen this even after I gave some performers praise for the show they had put on. I admit I don't really rp and tend to shut down fairly quickly any person I don't knows attempt to rp with me or offers for company or drinks by courts or servers. Heck most of the time I get ignored by the bar tenders. The biggest thing I see is rpers trying to stick to one kind of delivery. Basically not always sticking with putting everything in say even their movements or using the emote chat system.

[Wyssahtyn]

just don't rp with people you don't extensively vet/run background checks on. ez.

[Almagnus1]

That's the thing.. everyone is not an adult. FFXIV is not an 18+ only game, and as more and more of this stuff is being openly broadcast in public chat channels it's becoming an issue that should be addressed.

The problem with this stuff not staying underground is that any screen cap that can show something considered to be pornographic can get SE into a lawsuit in several US states for sharing pornography with minors.

The absolute last thing FFXIV needs right now is some idiot Karen starting up a lawsuit because their kids were engaged with porn and have the screenshots to prove it.

[Roeshel]

None of this is relevant. It doesn't matter what happens "in real life" or "lore-wise". In the end, on this subject, the only thing that matters is what is and isn't allowed by the Terms of Service we all agree to when using the FFXIV software.

According to that statement, people shouldn't be using ACT but raiders do right? So if SE can make an exception for some type of players then it is only just to make an exception for another type of players too.

Also, what's the big deal of just declining? Say you are not into that stuff and period. I don't really know what the situation with RP is at large because right now most of my time in FFXIV is spent alt-tapped, waiting for pf groups to fill up but before I was raiding, I also had different search info and I was Miqo'te so people did approach me in towns, even in Zadnor, and we then move the discussion to discord and I was more than fine with it. In my opinion, the only thing that matters the most is whether you are having fun or not and usually ToS is made to put restrictions on the very few oddballs of society whose fun comes at the detriment of others.

Regarding the OP, I don't really get the meaning of "FFXIV sex trade". It's not like you can do it. The person just assumed you were like them I guess so they proposed whatever they proposed. You can't really blame them for that though, you were in their event after all. If you don't want to be hit up in the wrong way, don't be around the type of people who are wrong for you, it's that simple. Unlike you, there are ppl who want exactly that type of experience for which the event was made I guess.

[Rinhi]

If you don't want to be hit up in the wrong way, don't be around the type of people who are wrong for you, it's that simple. Unlike you, there are ppl who want exactly that type of experience for which the event was made I guess.

that's some yikes victim blaming

[Roeshel]

that's some yikes victim blaming

It's not victim-blaming. Victim blaming can occur only if they were actually a victim. The OP is not a victim and even considering that they are a victim is very far-fetched. The OP was with the wrong people for her. That's like hanging out with people who constantly smoke, and falling into the delusion that you are their victim because they asked you to smoke with them too. It is only natural for people to want you to become more like them when you are doing stuff together. You would become a victim only if they forced you into things against your will which is not remotely the case with what happened to the OP.

Since we started talking about victims, if you look at things from a different perspective you can arrive at the conclusion that the host of the event became a victim of the OP's difference in taste for fun. The event clearly wasn't meant for her, and she partly ruined the fun of the one who organised all of it.

But let's look at things objectively. Organise your own RP events where you control what's happening, instead of having someone else organise that for you and complain about things they like doing that you don't. It's the same with pf groups with different macros. If you don't like Light Titan and you want Dwayne Titan then make your own party and wait for ppl to fill that party.

[van_arn]

We need to drop another moon on Eorzea.

[Rinhi]

It's not victim-blaming. Victim blaming can occur only if they were actually a victim. The OP is not a victim and even considering that they are a victim is very far-fetched. The OP was with the wrong people for her. That's like hanging out with people who constantly smoke, and falling into the delusion that you are their victim because they asked you to smoke with them too. It is only natural for people to want you to become more like them when you are doing stuff together. You would become a victim only if they forced you into things against your will which is not remotely the case with what happened to the OP.

Since we started talking about victims, if you look at things from a different perspective you can arrive at the conclusion that the host of the event became a victim of the OP's difference in taste for fun. The event clearly wasn't meant for her, and she partly ruined the fun of the one who organised all of it.

But let's look at things objectively. Organise your own RP events where you control what's happening, instead of having someone else organise that for you and complain about things they like doing that you don't. It's the same with pf groups with different macros. If you don't like Light Titan and you want Dwayne Titan then make your own party and wait for ppl to fill that party.

so you're saying that all RPers are actually ERPers? considering the OP went to a normal RP bar and yet they still got that proposition...
no, instead you double down and blame them for going to a normal bar and being asked if they'd like to sell their virtual body and that the OP should've known, like, did you even read the posts or read what you're writing? how is this NOT victim blaming? you're basically saying that it's to be expected because the OP is a catgirl on balmung
your smoke analogy makes no sense because this here isn't a case of peer pressure but a case of a supposedly "safe" RP place being once again the front for ERP and again people are making excuses for it, it's weird
big yikes