Struggling as Healer on Wall-to-Walls

[HyoMinPark]

Nice assumption, but no I have never received healing advice in an instance. My hostility stems from this forum feeling more like an elitist circlejerk where everyone here laughs at people less skilled than they are and then just go git gud.

Where is anyone in this thread laughing at the OP for asking for advice? Literally, where. A lot of threads that pop up asking for legitimate advice don’t end in the forum mob ganging up on the poor, innocent sprout and not helping them. Most end in people offering the advice players are asking for. Quite thoroughly and politely, usually. Threads only devolve when attitudes like yours arise.

They don't try to see or understand how difficult things may actually be for someone like me, despite explaining over and over and over and over to them, so eventually it becomes tiresome and people wonder why someone gets jaded at a community. Practice doesn't always make perfect or better, some people just do not have the ability to get better at something even though they try their damnest, following other's advice, trying to apply what they are told, watching videos, reading guides, and no improvement whatsoever to show for it over months and years of trying.

Except practice does make one better. Throwing your hands in the air and giving up at the first sign of challenge is what causes people to not progress in terms of skill level. Sure, some may never be as good as the top raiders. But not everyone has to be. And people certainly aren’t demanding that they be.

The hostility you tend to see on here is when people pop up and demand things like MSQ solo instances be nerfed because they’re repeatedly not paying attention to the mechanics and failing them; or they’re going into an instance severely undergeared and wondering why they’re getting one-shot by mechanics (see: The Will of the Moon threads). A lot of players don’t want to acknowledge their own mistakes, which is where you’ll see people “talking down to them” and telling them that they need to own what they’re doing wrong. This game handholds its playerbase through all of the story content. It can’t do much more—other than completely automate your character—to make things easier. At some point, people need to take responsibility and push themselves to do better, which is what most of those “elitists” are telling them to do.

Finally, it may have escaped your notice, but the OP isn’t you. So you shouldn’t assume that they will struggle the same way you’re apparently struggling. Or that they won’t learn and become better the way you’ve repeatedly stated you won’t.

People like the ones in this community or more specifically this forum just don't get it, and they never will because they have their stuck so far up in the clouds due to their skill level that they can never relate, never understand, so when you try to tell them you try and try and they just give a half-assed canned response, yeah I'm going to be hostile, jaded and angry because you still don't GET IT. Oh this fight is easy! Not to me and others liek me it isnt. Oh you just need more practice! What, ten years to see any modicum, improvement? How long do I have to practice at a game to get better at it if I don't see improvement over doing something for months or years? Oh but the job is so easy, I can do it in my sleep! Good for you, I'm glad teh game is trivial to you, its not to me and never will be.

You are holding on to a lot of hostility for literally no reason. And it’s making you construe everything about everyone on here negatively. You would do well to get rid of these feelings before you lash out at someone again—just like you did to Numenor in this very thread when they weren’t even talking to you.

@MikuMitsuko, Again I just say don't worry about it. Ask for smaller pulls and ditch them if they don't want to cooperate. There is only so much you can do. If you after practice practice practice practice and still cant handle large pulls, then you can't handle large pulls and you have to accept that. I can barely handle large pulls and usually someone dies if a tank goes crazy, this is with someone at a ilvl443, uses my ogcds and gcds as much as possible and the tank still dies. All you can really do is try your best and if teh party doesn't like that, they can find another healer.

I disagree. I think OP should continue to try. I think they should practice first with friends that they trust playing tanks and then shift slowly to dealing with random as opposed to following this defeatist attitude of “I’ll never get better”. Large pulls aren’t going to go away; so it would be good to learn how to handle them. And the more one handles then successfully, the easier they continue to be.