So, can we just ban damage meters already.

[Vidu]

Again, it was like a level 40 something MSQ dungeon and my first run. I died to a mechanic; the boss died anyways; the other DPS decided to get condescending because he saw my damage was lower than the healers.

Specific advice I'm fine with. Just throwing a "you suck" out there I'm not fine with; and I feel like the only reason anyone would even mention damage in a 40 something MSQ dungeon is to insult someone.

Here is specific advice then: Communicate that you're new and would welcome any advice to your party. Dont hide behind "I'm on PS4, I cant chat" and then complain about a community that you're not even engaging in.

You will meet unpleasent people - in Eorzea, in real life, everywhere. But its not parsers that make them unpleasent people and as I pointed out already: You dont even need a parser to point out that someone isnt playing very good. I dont know if that guy had a parser or not but he certainly didnt need one to tell that you died and he could have just as easly gone on about how bad you've been doing for not doing mechanics correctly.
You're seriously targeting the wrong crowd here...

If you're actually looking to improve the run then offer advice. "UR Not carrying ur weight!" is a completely useless thing to throw out there. You know it's useless and you know why you're doing it.

At a certain point someone shouldnt have been told how to play their job anymore. You are responsible for that yourself. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but no one should have to explain anything to anyone past level 30. Its nice when people to do, but telling someone that they need to improve, even if you dont (or maybe cant) tell them how to do that should be enough for that person to look into their playstyle.

Personally I've given friendly advice that got ignored or responded to with "you dont pay my sub!!!" so often that I'm trying to refrain from it by now and either finish the run in silence or initiate a vote-kick to remove the person who didnt learn how to play their job after 60+ levels. Those people will never know that they're actually a burden to everyone else - I ask you... is that really better?