Why are white mages allergic to regen?

[Fynlar]

While letting you die is a problem, this isn’t. If the healers have things under control it’s better for them to dps than unnecessary healing.

That's the thing though, clearly they don't have things under control if people are dying.

That's not to say that it's necessarily the healer's fault; sometimes people just don't handle mechs correctly and die because of that. But seemingly very often nowadays, I see people slowly die where at least one healer is just happily DPSing away without a care in the world, and that is a problem.

But I will never ever understand why SE thinks making it so healers with high DPS and as little healing as possible are the ‘best’ healers.

You are completely misattributing the blame here. That is a player issue.

SE clearly wants healer DPS to take a backseat to actual healing, they explicitly say so in Hall of the Novice at least 3 times or so.

The sad truth about healing in FFXIV is that it has no real purpose. If you’re doing a fight and the boss is at 10% HP, and the whole party except both healers die. There is absolutely no reason for those healers to heal if they can just kill the enemy. (obviously healers can’t take a boss down that much but just for example’s sake). In fact, it would be considered far more skilled for the healers to refuse to Raise and heal the party in favour of just killing the enemy. It doesn’t make any sense to me. Why have healers in the first place if they want healing to barely exist

Not sure what you're talking about here tbh. If you think healing has "no real purpose" try and go queue Eden with a 6 DPS party and let me know how it turns out.