Pulling the bosses In dungeons as DPS a thing now?

[Machka]

I think you need to know you're really only seeing what you want to see. I see DPS constantly having meltdowns because I don't pull the boss fast enough and they lose their combo or buff or something. Like oh no the dungeon will take an extra 30 seconds, better try to kick the tank over it. Meanwhile I hardly ever see tanks getting upset by things. So which one of us is right?

You see, that is the exact sort of warped mindset I'm talking about. A dps going ahead and attacking something to keep their stacks is not a meltdown. It's not even in the same galaxy as a tank stopping to type so they can assert their dominance, or even refusing to tank altogether like OP did (and many people in this thread have been saying they do too). You're the one seeing only what you want to see.

Do you mostly only play as a tank? If so, there's your answer as to why you might hardly ever see it. And as I said in a much earlier comment, if you are frequently seeing dps pull ahead of you that just means you are frequently going too slow.

Edit: Also, to respond to your last point, we're discussing this in a thread full of tanks talking about how they get upset by things. Some are even talking about how they respond to those sorts of situations by having a meltdown. Refusing to do your job as a tank and deliberately letting a party member keep aggro and die is having a meltdown. So how much either of us think we see it is kind of a moot point - this thread basically speaks for itself.