The 'unwritten rule' for non-tank pulls in dungeons

[van_arn]

Just like in life you can promote yourself to team leader by doing the job yourself. This isn't a democracy, it's a meritocracy. That means the tank outranks you. Don't like your circumstance? Change it. Dont like tanking? We all have to sacrifice and do things we don't like to get things accomplished our way and we need to stop pushing our expectations on someone else and take responsibility for our actions and future. Be professional, be tactful, be an adult and respect others wishes while engaging with their hobbies.

It actually is a democracy when the party fires the tank with a votekick.

I'm fine with the game adjusting incoming and outgoing damage to be less paste-eating simple, but that's not something Square is going to do. And unless they do, you'll be expected to operate at a pace your party is comfortable with. Even if that pace is uncomfortable to you personally, time to time. Because the healer can forcibly take over the healing AND tanking roles with the numbers as they are.

Ultimately, a tank's self-importance doesn't count for much when the only reason they remain in the party is that party's good pleasure. Tip the scales and the tank is gone just like that.