Unbelievable Rudeness!

[Lynesse]

Omg, I'm so sorry this happened. You're right. What happened was wrong.

[Yllania]

Mostly what you're going to get here is people acting as if it you're fault for expecting anything better from gamers.

[rachcouture]

Terrible people play online games; it's a sad truth we all have to deal with. Please tell your daughter not to give up! Were it me, I'd try to play with her as often as possible in the event something like this happens again. The right person stepping in makes all the difference. It does when I do it for my friends, anyway.

In the future, if something is spoken that's against the ToS, I highly recommend sending a report through the support desk; FFXIV's GMs tend to do a pretty good job dealing with in-game harassment.

[LittleChickenNugget]

For a second I thought I was on r/shxxpostxiv.

Look, it's unfortunate that she got bullied but if she caused a wipe, she'll need to learn to expect people to say something. You can't sit and cry that everyone else is mean when you need to be teaching her if she wants to play online with strangers from all walks of life, then she needs to toughen up a little. You should stop expecting people to be like you - it goes both ways.

[Yllania]

I mean if youre going to start bullying after just one wipe maybe youre the crybaby. Mistakes happen, learn how to handle them like a normal person.

I could understand if it was multiple times but once is just whatever.

[Jeeqbit]

PEGI Rating: Suitable for 16 years and over. Not for sale to persons under age 16.

Source: https://pegi.info/de/search-pegi?q=final+fantasy+xiv

You can encounter some really mean and inconsiderate people in this game and it can be really tough to deal with, especially when you are still new to the game and everyone is nitpicking you.

A number of experiences I went through while going through the MSQ hurt me for weeks or were so demoralising that it was difficult to see a way to continue playing.

Unfortunately, you encounter it sometimes and since adults can find it difficult enough to deal with, it's probably not going to be handled well by a 13-year-old. The fact remains that your daughter is playing a game not suitable for her age.

She needs to either take a deep breath and use it to grow (since a similar experience will likely happen in an online game in the future), or try the game again when she is older and better able to cope with such people.

[LCROSSE]

As a parent, this is also a good time to help your kiddo understand other people as well. It may seem harsh, but eventually she'll need to deal with intolerant people. I dont by any means condone the other players, but you wont always be around to shield your kids from rude people. Teaching thfm how to cope and deal with it will be a useful and critical life skill.

[White_Wolf_X]

1: You are letting your 13 year old play a game with 16+ rating.

2: Tell her to make use of the /blacklist function.

[Dualblade]

FFXIV's ESRB rating is T, which is 13 and up. So don't expect that the rating your country goes by to be the same as any one other person's country goes by. And also only accounts for the parts that don't require interaction with other players. Online interaction is always pointed out as being unrated.

As far as the actual topic goes, yes it was rude and shouldn't have happened. But we all have to deal with it because we aren't playing alone, we are playing with other people. And people aren't always nice and considerate, and thats true even if one usually is. Depending on how she feels on this within a few days it might be best for your daughter to put MMOs on hold for a while. Because it won't be the last time it'll happen no matter how long it takes for it to happen again, because well, people.

[xxvaynxx]

For a second I thought I was on r/shxxpostxiv.

Look, it's unfortunate that she got bullied but if she caused a wipe, she'll need to learn to expect people to say something. You can't sit and cry that everyone else is mean when you need to be teaching her if she wants to play online with strangers from all walks of life, then she needs to toughen up a little. You should stop expecting people to be like you - it goes both ways.

Or people can just not be D**ks?

Love how people in here are saying "well you should teach her to grow thick skin"

Are you all missing the fact he said she was a shy 13 year old girl? and you're also assuming he hasn't already told her about the bullies. Just telling her isn't automatically gonna make her immune to getting their feeling hurt.

Pretty sure most of you don't have a right to tell him what to teach his child if she's already a good kid assuming.
I kinda hate when people do that, if you never raised a child yourself. (Including myself)

All they're doing as her parent is coming here to remind people not everybody playing is an adult and should be respectful to your fellow player.