Tank entitlement vs group entitlement

[Makeda]

Despite tanking being the easiest role to do in MMOs, they are still pretty uncommon... and that is almost always due to threads like this one.

Nothing sucks the joy out of a task more than having a back-seat driver tell you how to do your own task...

Pretty much everytime I try to convince someone to try tanking or to 'try it again' they come back with "I just don't like the pressure" - and by that, they almost always have a story of being told how to do their own task when trying to tank, or seeing it happen to some other tank and deciding they don't want any part of that...

I pretty much ignore people who tell me what I should be doing when I didn't ask for help... That's not just true when tanking. You wanna play my role, queue as it. You wanna play my actual toon for me - queue with your squadron.

If I mess up my rotation and you know why - that's still annoying to be called on when I also probably know why... but even that is not as bad as you giving me a line-by-line set of commands over what keybind to hit next...

If I'm pulling to fast for my healer to keep up... that's something I need to learn how to spot on my own. And generally I can. If I'm pulling slower than you can handle - maybe I have my reason. Unless I start telling which heal to cast, or which fireball to cast, maybe you should bug off my back.

Of course I get it when I'm on something like my Au'Ra that is a healer / caster and she's on RDM, and... like last night, the healer asks me to cast the mana regen thing on her. Because she didn't try to dictate my entire rotation at me... she just asked for help.

And pacing... well that pretty much is the tank's "rotation." And the reasons it might be different than you expect go beyond just what your own MP or TP bar says.

Nothing worse than a back seat driver...

And if you don't think the tank is the driver fine - go pull that pull over there and see how long your toon stays alive. If you can do it... then fine. Kinda why I stopped making this rant back when I was playing WoW outside of 'Mythic+absurd' - because DPS there can generally survive anything 2-weeks after it comes out. So I let them tank it, and they do, and it's all good... But if they start spamming the WoW version of this "go go go", I go... back to the queue... without needing a votekick. Because I don't care if they pull if they handle it, but I don't settle for a back seat driver.