Why are standards seen as a crime in this game?

[AnnaRosa]

What I find curious is the (compared to pretty much every other MMO I've played) relatively high amount of players who come unprepared but don't mention that they're unprepared.
If you're new to a dungeon/ trial and have absolutely no clue what to do here... why not say so?
Why not write a simple "hey, first time here. any mechanics I need to pay attention to?".
I don't expect people to watch or read a thorough guide before every duty, though I welcome it if they do. Brownie points for coming prepared!
But at least tell others that you have no idea what to expect. That's common curtesy and has nothing to do with elitism. There's always someone who knows his stuff and can help, but silently hoping nobody notices that you don't know what to do is imo really thoughtless.
Even below 50 there are a couple of dungeons with mechanics that can cause wipe after wipe if ignored, like Qarn 1st boss, Chimera's skills in Cutter's Cry, Fruits in AV etc.
Yet when I wiped with a group and asked "hey, XY, do you know about the mechanics here?" I often get no response at all and quick explanations are being ignored. Just got out of another trial with people like that. Shiva really isn't terribly complicated. Lots of people watching cutscene, lots of early 50ish people. Asked "anybody here doesn't know what to do? ". No response.
Followed by four wipes because people died from standing in stuff, getting frozen etc, but ignored the offer from a RDM and me to lead them to safe spots aswell as the quick overview we gave.
5 people obviously didn't know a thing about this fight (which is fine) but didn't speak up (which is NOT fine).
The party chat is there for a reason.
I've met these kinds of people in every MMO but never to the extend as in FFXIV.

Play this game around 4 years with pauses of 3 months extend in between those years due to external factors.

During one year did made the roulette's every week some weeks 5 days a week with no exaggeration ALL PLAYERS who came across with during all this time warned when they were learning the mechanics and asked for help to know, when there was 1st time players understood and didn't adopt any condescending behavior over those who did not knew the mechanics.

All along players in their majority knew how to play their roles with the exception of a really, really like 1% few healers who would only heal, but even that didn't bother the team that much.

If there were wipes in raids it was not object for detrimental rage much less delinquent behavior towards others, on cases that were understood there were friends playing with friends and messing with them just for fun other players would leave duty without any dumb comment because like myself understood there were parties made of real life friends playing together and having fun with each other they were not there to waste anyone's time they were just having fun.

So not sure if have been lucky with the players who meet with or if you are making a generalization of the few different cases you have found.

So if you please can cut the B.S. it would be great.