You can play how you want to play but I have asked this same question before:
From another FFXIV thread on
Gamefaqs:
"While melds are a way to increase your stats melding 100% correct isn't that meaningful on tanks. For example after a test on my paladin i found that the difference between going full direct hit and actively trying to avoid as much direct hit as possible, only melding DH in gear that can't take DET and/or CRIT, was 1% dps.
Yes, it's an increase but hardly worth worrying about. "
This is also an interesting read:
https://www.reddit.com/r/ffxiv/comme...e_breakpoints/
I've seen this in a few threads here and on Reddit. Regardless, as I stated above it works for me. I know that DET isn't for damage reduction, it's supposed to increase all damage from weapon skills and auto attacks. TEN is supposed to increase damage and assist with health recovered from healing.
I still put out decent numbers (don't ask about parses because I don't bother with them) and I've been able to hold aggro just fine. I will note that I don't Savage raid or do EX trials because of the somewhat toxic players I just don't want to deal with. So my experiences may differ but I've heard that there are some that favor TEN in some situations. I'm also not saying people who want to meld DH are wrong either...it seems to be the most popular thing because everyone wants to make big numbers. All I said was that I found it to be overrated as you can get by playing whatever build you want.
Why are you so aggressive though? All I did was state my findings with another setup outside of the ordinary. It may not be the optimal way of going about things but still, I like it.