Uh, those tank enmity tools you’re talking about have a significant opportunity costs. Lucid and Diversion have literally none.

“Intentionally ripping hate” off a tank is you just being an obstinate princess trying to boss people into playing your way because reasons.

The tank in your story was just bad. A good tank will recognize when, due to their gear, their skill, or whatever, they are incapable of doing their job, and they will adjust. Don’t conflate that with all tanks who don’t ride defensive stance and threat combos. Most don’t need to do that and it’s pure waste.