Sexual harassment

[AriaFairchild]

Just ignore/blacklist. If you feel your real life safety is in danger, call the cops.

You should not waste too many brain cells over shenanigans in a video game - it's not worth it, imo.

[Okamimaru]

Just ignore/blacklist. If you feel your real life safety is in danger, call the cops.

You should not waste too many brain cells over shenanigans in a video game - it's not worth it, imo.

Ignoring issues always works out for the best...

[REPROBEAN_CHILD]

Sexual harassment in mmorpg. Lol. Just blacklist ppl and stop being spoiled snowflake.

Coming from someone who HATES sjws and PC culture, I detest comments like this. This is not directed to you personally, but you're trivializing what could amount to a major issue. I have a friend who once "dated" a guy through the game. They joined the FC and discord together, so they became a became part of our circle of friends. Eventually, she broke up with him and he got kicked out, stating that he started acting weird around her. I didn't know the full details at the time, so when he started talking to me out of the blue, I didn't think much of it. I was also somewhat forgiving and didn't want the guy to feel alone. Then I learned that he had been stalking her in-game, contacted her phone to the point she replaced her number and he tried reaching out to her on her social media. The dude got obsessed, after just a couple weeks of interaction. At that point, I cut him off too, especially after he told me "We're friends and friends always look out for each other " Even a year later, after she was in a new relationship, he STILL tried to message her one day. It was also likely he knew where she lived, so it became a matter of safety.

It's so easy to say "just block and blacklist them. Problem solved." It's a totally different ball game when someone actively waits to see if you'll show up online. Being told that "your character is pretty," is NOT harassment. Being actively pursued by someone, after it was made it clear you want nothing to do with them, is.

[AriaFairchild]

Ignoring issues always works out for the best...

My sincerest apologies, I should have added "reporting to GMs". They have the chat logs, they can deal with the dude. I mean, spamming "Nice jobs!" in PvP gets bans, surely this is more serious than that, right?

Realistically, that's all you can do in-game.

Or you can choose not to ignore but to go ham on the dude, and he realizes he got your attention so he proceeds to get on your nerves some more. "The dogs bark, but the caravan goes on". You don't stop to trade barks with the dog.

Or you can go full 1984 and install telescreens in everyone's house to monitor activities and/or hormone levels.

Or you can start a campaign to get public attention and SE's attention, and prolly some laws are gonna be passed regarding sexual harassment in MMOs.

etc.

Your pick.

[Awha]

Seems messed up to put the burden on the community to blacklist and shame a person for actions that may not even be true. I do not think the community should ever get mixed up in what amounts to a personal feud. Just my two cents.

[Raiya]

Basically when you start getting unwanted sexual crap etc....



Block and move on, don't get too involved with it. It's a game not a dating simulator. C_C

[Baingoleth]

As a somewhat older netizen, I remember a time when no one used real names on the internet. Everyone I knew in real life used pseudonyms and it was considered very bad form to refer to someone by their real name. Things seemed the change around the time that social media started to get popular. Most of the people I know from the early days still don't use their real names online anywhere that is public. Some of them are also very cautious about giving personal information to companies who ask because databases can be hacked into. Most of the people who stalk in an MMORPG aren't going to be savvy enough to find it but there are places online where people's personal information is indexed from various sources.

My point is to please be careful what you put online and reveal to people! Blacklisting someone isn't very effective if they can find you through other methods.

I know there will always be people who will get into bad situations because they are lonely or easily manipulated but I hope some people will take my advice and be more cautious about providing personal information to people online.

[Rogatum]

Ignoring issues always works out for the best...

I do not see many telling those being impacted to ignore in the sense to pay no mind, report it to a GM if they find enough evidence that supports harassment they will take action. Sure at times it might take a few tries since everyone interrupts harassment differently, but I have seen action be taken after repeated reports. GM's, police, law makers are not afforded the benefit of going based off their first emotional response. Which why I get worried when communities take it into their own hands to take action over a situation. Rarely are we ever given the full story, or even the truth. Things could have been left out details changed. Asking for the community on the whole blacklist these so called scumbags can be extremely damaging. We have to look at it from both sides it seems people always look at it from the view of the victim, and blindly goes based off their recollection of the story.

When the community gets dragged in, lines start to be drawn and often issues get blown into larger proportions. Contact the GM, police what have you, do not just sit on it but what benefit does anyone get bringing in strangers that often are only told the story through the grape vine. Sure people will say what if the victim is telling the truth. Here is the thing if it turns out the first person who came out was lying people ended up ignoring the true victim.

[Zsolen]

Couldn't have said it better myself. Choosing to hate is never the answer.

[EorzeaHero69]

I've experienced a lot drama in this game and in real life, but what I've read about that today, this is completely the worst in my opinion, and to be honest, I kinda don't talk much in game or use any type of voice chat to avoid causing one, intentionally or unintentionally. While you can blacklist and report this kinda stuff, if it's outside of the game, there's really not much SE could do, since outside evidence can't be accepted, and of course there are some things blacklist can't stop.