To be fair, one of the (very) few times that a DPS helped me with healing was a RDM. But the norm is they almost never helps unless they are trully mentors (actual mentor, not some crowned noob), from your FC or your static. Not even with Addle on the boss.
And that's why I feel that all this discussion is all about healers covering bad DPS ass: no one is saying anything about how lessen the healer's work is everyone's job. For instance, no one does a topic on DPS forum wanting to know why they aren't using mitigation skills. On practice, if the party needs Addle to survive, it's a sure wipe.
And I don't see reciprocity on this insistent calling. There are no obligation from DPS players besides what their roles says to do. Just for healers/tanks. It's ok for DPS not waving mitigation. It's OK DPS not doing damage if he's doing some sort of rotation. No one posted some parse where the DPS was outDPSed by the healer just to point a finger at him. But healer not doing damage is a cancer that must have to be banned from the universe.
If it's not OK for healers not doing damage, it shouldn't be ok for DPS not using their party buffs. It shouldn't be OK for a caster not give some mana to healers when they're low MP. It shoudn't be OK for a RDM or a SMN to just turn a blind eye when someone dies because raise someone that's fallen is a healer duty. It shoudn't be ok for DPS almost never using diversion skills (tanks would apreciate that too). But it is OK. Not doing that is not a sign of a "lazy DPS", a "netflix DPS" or someone that no one wants to play with. That don't even mean that he's a bad DPS.
And that is to the extend that if a RDM raises someone, he feel entitled to some confetti. "Oh, I sacrified some of my precious deeps to help my party". Please, spare me.
And while this situation remains like that, the DPS queue will continue being too short. Yes, 30+ minutes is too short. It should be 60+ minutes long.