Let's go through some points.
-You are not selfish if you want to level instead of help a friend. You are selfish when you whine about having to level instead of helping a friend because you had every option to do either and choose the former.
-I solod on Thief well before 75, getting a party was rough for thief for...almost forever. When I wasn't making my own parties I was soloing (Great way to keep your marksmenship capped.) Any class can solo pre-75 it's not the best exp under the sun but it's better than sitting around with a thumb up your behind crying about the lack of parties. On this notion, lowman parties always worked as well. You are to blame if you just went with cookie cutter camp/party setups and didn't go beyond the little box you define as the "Norm"
-I stand by my assumption that you let 9/10ths of the game pass you by while you wept gently into a friends shoulder about how bad you felt when you had to merit on drg.
-What you thought about FFXI is irrelevant, you have no place to come in and shit on everyone elses opinion of the game who don't agree with you. I haven't said anything about your sad experience in the game aside that I feel you missed out on some of the greater things the game had to offer bassed on what little information you have givin me to go on. Was it the wrong way to play the game? I might think so, but all the power to you to sit in town for hours on end waiting for someone else to make the game happen for you, "Grinding" instead of playing the game.
-I frankly don't give a damn wether you liked parts of XI or hated it all, calling people massochists because they like a certain playstyle. I guess I'm a bit guilty on this front as well as I called you selfish for not "Ditching" your merit parties to help friends, I'll bite the bullet on that one.
I did read your entire post and my points all stand, your half assed assumptions about my posts aren't helping your post either.