Yeah I agree, just I simply do not understand the mindset some players have in regard to being a new player. I mean in my example it would have been nice if the group was a tad more welcoming the fact that I was forth coming which my gear and lack of knowledge regarding the dungeon. I just do not understand why some newer players expect experience players to be willing to walk them through a new dungeon, or why some experienced players feel people should be obligated to help newer players in the game.
By no means does this mean I feel as if it gives people a free pass to berate or belittle a new player for a failed attempt. I just wish all players would come to terms with fact that DF experiences will always be random, unless you stack the odds in your favor by removing certain variables a la queuing with friends.
I mean from what I have seen the first time bonus is rather lackluster for older players, maybe if SE wanted to foster a more helpful community first time bonus should yield greater rewards that a more seasoned player may find more appealing? I do not know. Though I am indifferent with this idea because while it is nice when you run into players that are willing to adjust to new players, but by no means should we a) place that expectation on older players and b) should new players have that expectation. Helping another while nice, should never be an obligation, since when it becomes a obligation the help given will more likely be half ass and at that point it is just becomes a potential bitter experience for all parties involved.
I the end I simply do not understand how any player feels they have the right to provide a negative experience for others simply because they were not voted out of the group. Punishment should be the only thing people respond to, common courtesy should be more prevalent. Though that is a lofty ideal.
Be it the player that pulls for the tank after majority said they were okay with a slower run, or the player that does single pulls, those players that do not use their aoe in protest to large pulls etc. . . sadly I have ran into each of those types, and I am sure there are many more.