Quote Originally Posted by Skivvy View Post
"Why aren't you using scatter" vs. "Try using scatter in packs" - vastly different tones between two fairly similar comments, neither of which are worded for a child. It's really not difficult to be helpful and civil without coming off like you're just harping on someone.
Being helpful & civil and being critical & direct are not mutually exclusive.

It's really not difficult to not take someone's criticism as them harping on you, either. There is functionally no difference between "use scatter" and "you should try using scatter" but the number of characters. The advice is still sound either way.