Quote Originally Posted by seraf View Post
For some players it doesn't matter how nice or helpful you're trying to be they won't have any part of it. I still remember this one time I tried to give a tip to this healer in one dungeon and they replied with "Don't tell me how 2 heal" and ignored what I said. There's no reasoning with those types of people.
There will always be people who are not open to advice, but with the others its can depend a lot on how you approach it. It sounds like OP went about it in an accusatory way ("Why aren't you using scatter?") vs. something more neutral sounding (Heyo! You may want to try using scatter on larger packs (or something similar)). Even if advice is well-intentioned, approaching them with the former is probably a good way to put their bristles up.

On a personal note, I'm currently working on leveling my PLD. I'm really not that confident with the job, and am absolute chicken shit about going into dungeons/roulettes with it. I first leveled it to 50 back near launch, and haven't touched it until recently. I totally welcome advice because I DO want to play the job well, but it would totally crush me if someone came at me in a negative way or just straight out attacked me over something.

This is normally where people will chime in that I just need a thicker skin, or perhaps tanking isn't for me. There is probably some truth in there, but it's also not difficult to just be decent to your fellow players and give advice if you have some to share. Give people the benefit of the doubt that they may be trying their best, and perhaps just don't realize there is a better way.