Does it get any better?

[Vidu]

My statement of there never being a dialogue meant that, I haven't once had someone ask me nicely to stop. I've had people just without words stop healing me, then after death say "That's why you let the tank pull".
"That's why you let the tank pull"

Yes and thats what you deserve when you dont let the tank pull, geez, man, you said you've been playing MMos for more than 15 years so we can assume that you're older than 15 - why dont you act like it and begin the dialouge yourself by asking "Hey, I think we can go a little faster, how about pulling more?" instead of dictating your group what YOU want to do?
Nice that YOU havent wipe from this yet, but this game isnt only about YOU - its also about the other people in the dungeon. And honestly: healer and tank have to pick up the extra stuff that you pulled, the weight is more on them than it is on you. It might be stressful for them and for sure its annoying.

Chaining pulls when the first mob is nearly dead, and mass pulls are different though. I stated chain pulling.

...and its still not your place as dps to do that - I'm amazed that you havent learned from your experience in the DF yet.

But again: Yes, speedrunning becomes a thing in endgame-dungeons. You're not in endgame-dungeons. You're in leveling dungeons. And even in endgame-dungeons its not your place to pull when you have a little red icon and not a blue one.