What's with all the hate toward mentors?

[Miste]

completely ignoring the hundreds of times the mentors in their other duties were just normally doing their job or even going out of their way to help.

I've actually seen more examples of GOOD mentors in game than bad ones. I play a lot. I do a mentor roulette every day

Yeah I agree, honestly on Primal DC most mentors I see are either neutral because the run is going smooth and nothing needs to be said or they are helpful with whatever they can offer.

I also do the same when I do mentor roulette. Sometimes I get content I don't remember how to do unfortunately but I try my best to remember things to help others with or try to explain what I think I remember. Some EX Primals are hard since I totally don't remember them step by step or the best way to do them based on the role that is new or having issues with the content, but I still try my best and of course do the best on the role I am in there on to assist.

Everyone has different expectations on what a mentor should be doing so you only sometimes actually meet someone's personal expectations.

Like I remember posting a story in Tales of DF thread about a tank that wouldn't stop running and let me type anything to them in Dzmael Darkhold. They weren't standing in the crystal and they were using Sword Oath and not Shield Oath so I was tanking all the mobs as WHM.

I tried until first boss to get them to stop and listen for a minute but they just kept going and I was doing the healing role and tanking role both. So I ended up leaving the group. Some people actually think I shouldn't have left because I was a mentor and I understand we all have different opinions, but honestly I would think a line would be drawn at a mentor being responsible to tank on a healer role. Healers may have the toolkit to main heal and side dps but we don't have the toolkit to tank. So I only had two options either I vote kick the tank or I leave myself and since I don't like kicking people I choose to leave on my own.

So personally I think some people's expectations are just set too high. When you set your expectations that high you are always going to be disappointed and then there comes the hate. It's a video game first of all so it is a hobby for entertainment; you can't expect miracles from a volunteer player help guide. Mentor or normal player we all have limits and we all have the right to leave content when we wish due to IRL problems or because we can't teach those who don't want to be taught. There is only so much a mentor can do and I think some players just do not realize that.

Some mentors do not exemplify the simple base of what a mentor should be and I understand that but in my experience it has been the minority of them. There seems to be way more decent or good ones than bad.

I've gotten hate as a mentor from players who do not want to be helped. I offer advice but then get swore at for example and insulted over it no matter how nicely I offer it. It happens way too often too :/

From players who like the assistance though I've got nothing but nice comments and commendations for assisting them so it helps knowing I was able to help them even with the players who insult me for trying to help being so prevalent :x