Don't be "that DPS"

[FunkyBunch]

As a tank, this isn't what bothers me. If I lose a mob, I'll get it back, its whatever. However...

What bothers me is more along the lines of this scenario:

After all the shit in the OP's post happens, I voke+Unmend the mob, y'know, like ya do. This always starts with me doing a big AoE pull and the DPS in question decides to cherry pick 1 out of 10 mobs to be their BFF of Eternal Fucking Bonding.

The DPS, invariably a ranged DPS (like, literally always) doesn't move, just sits there like a SACK OF LEAD, and continues hitting the same mob.

I know the expectation is that the tank will about face and run his ass over there to melee it off the squishy little caster/brd/ whatever, in the process turning his back to the 10 other things he's tanking (no parrying/blocking)

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make snarky comments about me "not doing my job".

Mmmm. Makes me seethe. Don't be THAT DPS.

Maybe don't lose the mob in the first place? I always AoE with 3+ mobs and sometimes tanks will ignore the fact that they have to control hate on all the mobs. On the second or third flare I'll routinely rib a mob or 3 away. I used to switch to single target damage and switch targets when I noticed an enemy go orange, but I stopped because I'm really just enabling a bad tank.

The problem is tanks will be in DPS stance and then get mad when mobs are ripped away from them. I do more DPS doing AoE than you do extra in DPS stance. Please don't let me rip mobs from you because you want to increase your DPS a little bit. Further the whole group dies faster if you don't try and burst mobs down one at a time. Every mob that dies early is 2.2k F2 damage that is lost or 2.5k+ of Flare damage that is lost (about 600 DPS loss per dead mob). Granted this is melee DPS problem as well.

Further, if I rip a mob away from you, if it's only one, it's probably fine to let me handle it. Manaward/Manawall and single target burst I can handle myself until the rest of the mobs are dead and the group can attack the mob attacking me.