Not sure when this became a thing, but...

[Dorander]

Skipped mechanics and aggressive strategies impact healers the most.

Healers should always be the number one determining factor with any skipped mechanic or aggressive strategy.

If the healer says "no," you listen.

If the healer says "jump," you say "how high?"

If the healer says "for the love of the Twelve, Tank, will you PLEASE equip you Fending gear?" then you equip your Fending gear.

Or You could just not deal with the whiny healer and kick them, because more than likely the next healer that joins won't be crap.