As someone who very recently stopped FFXIV due to these focus's on tank DPS and went to go tank in WoW. I can say that I feel very that WoW has tanking & healing in a better spot than FFXIV. It may be due to WoW's age or SE just as very little idea what they want to do with these two roles. The fact that my secondary stats play a large role in my ability to deal damage and protect myself makes me feel that I am not sacrificing tankiness for damage and makes it a much more enjoyable tanking experience. I don't tank to see large numbers. I tank to keep control over a fight.