FFXIV and Family Time

[Fayette]

You have 2 options with family and Kids

1) Know when to get off... bad things happen if you don't. GF/Wife agro is something that should be avoided at all time.

2)(Better Option) Get the kids and Wife to play ... It is called a family night a time for the whole family to bond and come together and play.... just have to find a way to sell that >.>

I had two friends in FFXI that played with their family. Hubby, Wife, 2 kids for one family and Hubby, Wife and 1 kid for other family. They had a great time together and it was fun hanging out with them all ^^

My previous girlfriend didn't have a problem with it (broke up with her for non-gaming related reasons). I wouldn't bother with someone who did. I would rather be alone than with someone who tries to control every aspect of how I spend my time.

I keep telling people in game (mostly tends to be guys) who complain about their girlfriends one piece of advice that I will live by for myself as well (I'm a girl). If you are an avid gamer and that is what you like to do as a hobby, then please only date other gamers. It will save you and the other person a lot of trouble and heartache and your online friends don't have to hear you complaining about RL aggro all the time :P

Some people get lucky though that they date a non-gamer and end up converting the person. My ex-b/f wouldn't even attempt to do anything with me online, considered it a waste of his precious baseball news reading time Funny thing is, I started playing online games because when I was over at his place for a few days I would be bored while he was at work or when he was at home and was busy watching baseball and I needed something to do!

[Perrin_Aybarra]

2)(Better Option) Get the kids and Wife to play ... It is called a family night a time for the whole family to bond and come together and play.... just have to find a way to sell that >.>

Yeah that's a good idea. On top of it you don't have trouble finding a group to go do stuff when you play with your family :P

[Luluna]

Me and my husband play all the time be it MMO or Console games!! Sometimes i am worse than he is and need to do other things...been together 16 years and have played many a fine game. I don't understand other females who would rather go dance around their handbag than having some fun gaming, and they don't get my gaming but its what makes the world go round. Best advice is find a girl/guy who loves the same things as you do makes it less aggro time lol. Or don't ignore them and share your time with them as much as you would gaming.

[Bigglesworth]

I actually have the ammend my response a bit. It's not that my wife hates games. We have a Wii and there are family games that we do together where we all along with the kids have a lot of fun (Just Dance 2 - Don't hold it against me). The only problem with FF is that it isn't really a 2 player co-op like other games. I understand you play with others, but they are online friends, not 2 players logged into the same computer.

[Seif]

I don't think I'll ever be able to turn my bf into a gamer. XIV was the best shot I thought I had at it but SE blew that chance.

He understands that I like to play because videogames are my job and a hobby but the hardest time I have is when we have something we planned to do and XI/XIV online commitments happen at the same time.

I really hate blowing off anybody for personal stuff and I don't want to make my bf wait until I get gaming stuff done so I tend to like the easy but slow grin methods. Meaning solo grinding in XIV and Qufim partying in XI.

I think he enjoys videogames the most when I'm exploring new places in XI because the beast tribes and the history of the areas is so well written but in XIV there's not that much to know about the world and the history of the world isn't reflected in the surroundings in the same compelling way.

I'm really hoping he'll give XIV another chance when the world changes and better written story content arrives.

[KaiKatzchen]

I've heard the whole argument "Gaming is my hobby and how I spend my time, what's the difference between that and shopping or whatever hobby my wife has". I've found that with this reasoning, you really are not going to ever win.

My husband knew I was a gaming techno-geek before he married me, if he don't like it... oh well! :P

lol

But in all seriousness, he tried playing FFXI and didn't realize how much dedication and time it took, after that he said he respected my patience and that I was able to do everything that was involved for the game. But... I try to play when he's at work, and not so much when he's home and on one of his days off we make a 'hubby/wife" day where we do stuff together.

We don't have children yet so I am not in the same position as you with the kids. But for the most part, we respect each others hobbies, and he knows this one is mine and he happy to let me play it. He's the one who bought me the game for my birthday, all he asks is that I limit it to one P2P MMO! heehee.

Also helps that my LS believes that RL/FAMILY > GAME.

[Abauge_Goga]

I am married, 2 boys with one more on the way, boy again. I also work full time as a construction manager, which sometimes takes 12-16 hrs a day.
I used to play FFXI for almost 5 years and gave up so I can pursue a career. I was single at the time.

Now, I play usually 3 days during the week, from 8-11 pm. Weekends are on and off, depending on how much work I get done around the house.

A few people mentioned it, the most important thing is let your family know you they come first. Try and schedule your play time, because if you don't, they can't schedule their family time with you and they feel left out.

If you manage to find a way to do it all, it will work out. Also, as someone mentioned this as well, you are not out there partying and cheating on your woman, you are in the basement glued to a computer trying to kill a NM

Balance is key, even though you can play 24/24 and not get bored.

[Delmontyb]

What we do in my household is that we set a time a week (in my case Tuesday evenings) as game time. So I know that I'll be able to kick back and relax with some FFXIV each week on Tuesday.

As for the rest of the week, it's come and go, but my wife does play the game with me.

It's about balance, and as one poster said solid communication.

[Eekiki]

What we do in my household is that we set a time a week (in my case Tuesday evenings) as game time. So I know that I'll be able to kick back and relax with some FFXIV each week on Tuesday.

Ugh...rules...

This is why marriage sucks. Why can't I just find a roommate to pay half the bills and occasionally have sex with me?

[Archadius]

Ugh...rules...

This is why marriage sucks. Why can't I just find a roommate to pay half the bills and occasionally have sex with me?

I'm in! lmao