FFXIV and Family Time

[Reinheart]

I dont ignore my kid or my girlfriend
i know when to get off the game and go spend time with them

so it doesnt affect anything for me

but i still play too much

I spend time with them as well... the part is even if its after they sleep and I start getting into my own time (reason why I was up till 4 AM back then) I still got wifes asuran fist + mega-kamehameha

At least that's the past, it's all good now going into 11th year with my wife lol

There is Japanese saying More you fight, more friends you will be (Kenka suru hodo naka ga yoku naru)

[Bigglesworth]

my story might actually take the cake.

So FFXI was on a permanent veto in my house for about a year. I really missed the game though, but never really thought I would get a chance to play again. Well when my daughter was born my wife really wanted to pierce her ears. I was opposed to it, so we reached an agreement. I would let her pierce my daughters ears if I could reinstall FF11 and play only 2 nights a week. Well it worked out because I proved that I could play responsibly and put RL stuff first.

[ydp002]

Well thanks your daughter for the perfect excuse !!

[Rinoa]

Bigglesworth, you are very strong to resist the force of FF11 and FF14. =)

[R0ssdaddy]

Great OP.

We decided that I could have 3 days a week that are dedicated to FF. This is after working all day, so I usually end up with 3 sessions of 3 or 4 hours a week. Enough to kill Batraal a couple times, and maybe run some battle leves.

Other than that, crafting requires almost zero attention so I do that while I am forced to watch some BS about the Kardashians or General Hospital or whatever crap she makes me watch.

Either way, once a month its inevitably a hot issue. I am convinced its just like anything else. You gotta fight tooth and nail for what you want, or it will be absorbed.

Splitting time and STICKING to the schedule does work, but it sucks. 3x a week is all i get, and I WANT MORE!

[Abauge_Goga]

Great OP.

We decided that I could have 3 days a week that are dedicated to FF. This is after working all day, so I usually end up with 3 sessions of 3 or 4 hours a week. Enough to kill Batraal a couple times, and maybe run some battle leves.

Other than that, crafting requires almost zero attention so I do that while I am forced to watch some BS about the Kardashians or General Hospital or whatever crap she makes me watch.

Either way, once a month its inevitably a hot issue. I am convinced its just like anything else. You gotta fight tooth and nail for what you want, or it will be absorbed.

Splitting time and STICKING to the schedule does work, but it sucks. 3x a week is all i get, and I WANT MORE!

lol don't we know it :P

[Rubicon]

Two girlfriends ago, she didn't mind but it was long distance.

One girlfriend ago said I could have play time (I played every Thursday night and Friday night was optional) until she tried to get me to quit playing altogether. Bad idea, sweetie. Adios.

Current girlfriend is OK with my play time because she studies for school and her ex's gave her crap for studying too much. I let her study ALL she wants. (I still play on Thursdays and Fridays and now on Sundays BUT Monday, Wed and Sat are all her's)

[ereskigal]

You guys need to let them know it keeps you out of trouble and she know your not out there cheating lol

[Zenaku]

When i was 13+year old and playing FFXI i did quit for the amount of time i was with the girl. I still was paying for the game so i only log in to talk to friend or just now and then do a party if she hang up and she was doing something. but now with my 3relationship i don't have to worry about that. She was playing wow when we start going out she even made the linkshell i was building break due to her using my only pc to play wow. She like every other wow play thought ffxi look dumb but she saw me playing and she want to test it out.

She learn pretty quick before i even got her the game i went to take a bath and came back. She had build me a merit party with the right type of members o.o and got me to the area in whitegate o.o. So i got her the game she quit wow and in about 1year she had over 5+ 75 which where. RDM,WHM,BLM,SCH,THF, and she got BRD DRG and SMN 65. She even help me get my COP done. She got in a HNM linkshell i did not have a mage job but they let me in due to her so i even got a black belt thanks to her.

I was playing for years and i was not even 75 yet but i took my time and help other. But when she start playing it's when i got really into the game and start getting stuff like kirin body and black belt and everything else for my sam and monk. Now we are playing FFXIV and we still enjoy playing Game together and go out and hang out.

so i have no issue right now it hard when the girl does not like playing video games and tell you to get off. But you had to make them understand that this is your thing. At least you not going out to the bar and getting drug or doing other stuff. you just at home playing a MMO and she know where you are lol.

[SAMINUS]

My fiance realizes that I need downtime as an introvert, so I play this game. She lets me play Sun, Tue, and Wed nights. Just as long as she knows that she is more important then she is fine. I am going into the gaming business as I have been going to school to be a game designer so she understands that a good chucnk of my hobby time is around gaming. She only plays cell phone games like Angry Birds or sometimes Mario games on the Wii with me. Mario Party 8 and a few bottles of wine - we enjoy it. Communication is key though for sure. She even feeds me ideas for new cell phone games to make. The current one I am working on is only made possible by all of the ideas she has been feeding me. I am not sure when I will start working for one of our local game design companies and I wish to finish my PhD in Computer Science first.