FFXIV and Family Time

[KaiKatzchen]

I've heard the whole argument "Gaming is my hobby and how I spend my time, what's the difference between that and shopping or whatever hobby my wife has". I've found that with this reasoning, you really are not going to ever win.

My husband knew I was a gaming techno-geek before he married me, if he don't like it... oh well! :P

lol

But in all seriousness, he tried playing FFXI and didn't realize how much dedication and time it took, after that he said he respected my patience and that I was able to do everything that was involved for the game. But... I try to play when he's at work, and not so much when he's home and on one of his days off we make a 'hubby/wife" day where we do stuff together.

We don't have children yet so I am not in the same position as you with the kids. But for the most part, we respect each others hobbies, and he knows this one is mine and he happy to let me play it. He's the one who bought me the game for my birthday, all he asks is that I limit it to one P2P MMO! heehee.

Also helps that my LS believes that RL/FAMILY > GAME.

[Abauge_Goga]

I am married, 2 boys with one more on the way, boy again. I also work full time as a construction manager, which sometimes takes 12-16 hrs a day.
I used to play FFXI for almost 5 years and gave up so I can pursue a career. I was single at the time.

Now, I play usually 3 days during the week, from 8-11 pm. Weekends are on and off, depending on how much work I get done around the house.

A few people mentioned it, the most important thing is let your family know you they come first. Try and schedule your play time, because if you don't, they can't schedule their family time with you and they feel left out.

If you manage to find a way to do it all, it will work out. Also, as someone mentioned this as well, you are not out there partying and cheating on your woman, you are in the basement glued to a computer trying to kill a NM

Balance is key, even though you can play 24/24 and not get bored.

[Bigglesworth]

I am married, 2 boys with one more on the way, boy again. I also work full time as a construction manager, which sometimes takes 12-16 hrs a day.
I used to play FFXI for almost 5 years and gave up so I can pursue a career. I was single at the time.

Now, I play usually 3 days during the week, from 8-11 pm. Weekends are on and off, depending on how much work I get done around the house.

A few people mentioned it, the most important thing is let your family know you they come first. Try and schedule your play time, because if you don't, they can't schedule their family time with you and they feel left out.

If you manage to find a way to do it all, it will work out. Also, as someone mentioned this as well, you are not out there partying and cheating on your woman, you are in the basement glued to a computer trying to kill a NM

Balance is key, even though you can play 24/24 and not get bored.

Congrats on #3 by the way. I completely agree with your statement. I believe in moderation in all things. Even good things in extreme amounts can be bad. Family has to come first. Causing hurt feelings in your RL isn't worth some item or quest you gain in a fictious world. (although boy do we love that world!)

[Delmontyb]

What we do in my household is that we set a time a week (in my case Tuesday evenings) as game time. So I know that I'll be able to kick back and relax with some FFXIV each week on Tuesday.

As for the rest of the week, it's come and go, but my wife does play the game with me.

It's about balance, and as one poster said solid communication.

[Eekiki]

What we do in my household is that we set a time a week (in my case Tuesday evenings) as game time. So I know that I'll be able to kick back and relax with some FFXIV each week on Tuesday.

Ugh...rules...

This is why marriage sucks. Why can't I just find a roommate to pay half the bills and occasionally have sex with me?

[Archadius]

Ugh...rules...

This is why marriage sucks. Why can't I just find a roommate to pay half the bills and occasionally have sex with me?

I'm in! lmao

[Reinheart]

Ugh...rules...

This is why marriage sucks. Why can't I just find a roommate to pay half the bills and occasionally have sex with me?

Problem with that is if there is any fights they can leave at anytime and you gonna end up paying full rent and finding replacement quick

Even after marriage if you don't have kids it's possible to stick with same style if your wife/husband plays the same way you do. If you have kids then you have more responsibility to raise them and take care of them and make sure to have fun with them Family > Game always. One thing for sure though... my son gonna PL me when he grows up lol j/k

[Archadius]

Still gotta go with Eekiki on this one.

Almost every post in this thread is about how people are "restricted" in how often and how long they can play. Try slapping a restriction on your wife's shopping like that and lemme know how it goes lol

"Ok hun... Your limit is 2 shopping nights per week, with a spending limit of $200 per week. Go!

...

...you find divorce papers on your desk two days later."

I'd like the freedom to spend my time however I choose, my significant other should know that I'm going to chose them over a game or anything else for that matter. I don't need to be treated like a child with "curfew-like rules".

[Eekiki]

Still gotta go with Eekiki on this one.

Almost every post in this thread is about how people are "restricted" in how often and how long they can play. Try slapping a restriction on your wife's shopping like that and lemme know how it goes lol

"Ok hun... Your limit is 2 shopping nights per week, with a spending limit of $200 per week. Go!

...

...you find divorce papers on your desk two days later."

I'd like the freedom to spend my time however I choose, my significant other should know that I'm going to chose them over a game or anything else for that matter. I don't need to be treated like a child with "curfew-like rules".

Exactly. I'm all about equality, and just about everyone giving me dating advice is telling me the secret to finding love is to let the woman do whatever she wants and obey her every command.

No thanks. Neko-sentai and Motherless will keep my primal urges sated until I meet someone who's willing to be my partner rather than my taskmaster.

[Zenaku]

It's funny how the single people saying how they dislike "restricted" but soon they get a GF they really love. They be off FFXIV and be "restricted". Don't sit there and tell me you wont because it happen to me before.

Anyways i'm happy that my GF also play games she like playing healers and i like playing DD so we do a pretty good time and seeing how everything in this game is solo beside the dungeon we don't really much other people with us.