"I Was Out of That!" (Some Life Lessons)

[Purrfectstorm]

Stopped reading right there. You got a bad group in Duty Finder and we are supposed to be surprised or sympathetic. Other than the main quests Duty Finder is optional and really isn't for progression, gearing or speed runs its meant for a way for casuals to see content and experience dungeons/raids. You are paid a bonus for putting up with newbs/scrubs and as a tank you are paid an even greater bonus. Either deal with it or stick to statics and premades.

You're also making assumptions. I was not complaining about a bad group in DF. Please reread my OP. I'm not trying to garner sympathy because of a bad DF group. I was just trying to share ideas I thought were cool. However, I seem to have touched a nerve. This is the internal defender I talked about in my OP. It seems like people are responding with a great deal of fear as though I am calling them out. I'm not. I'm taking sociology classes and learning to see myself through the eyes of others. I think this is a useful skill to have, don't you think?

I shared some of what I've learned because I thought some might find it helpful to know how the other side sees you (when you wipe the group over and over or always blame forces outside of yourself, whether it's the truth or not e.g. lag). I didn't just criticize, I've offered many ideas for improvement. I highly recommend the book The Question Behind the Question. It helped me understand some issues about personal accountability that I didn't realize before. Spoiler alert: the "question behind the question" is what I shared in my OP - "What can I do right now to improve this situation?" I think it's a very constructive question to ask

[Tuathaa]

You're also making assumptions.

Assumptions are opinions which your first post is full of and is largely unsubstantiated. With 4 mil subscribers you have only sampled a minute portion and do not have the necessary sample base to accuse the whole community or a portion there of. Sure there are always going to be players that do not take responsibility for their mistakes and blame things are outside of their control. An attitude which is becoming way to prevalent in this society but there are also things outside of a players control that actually exists such as lag which you are failing to recognize.
In my opinion whether you meant it that way or not the post is an incredibly passive aggressive whine fest about how other people don't play the game you want them to and how they fail to meet your expectations.
You have even "suggested" methods for people to correct the behavior you find unfavorable so you have a better experience. Although not specifically stated that way it is the perceivable intonation of the post.

I personally have never had an experience in DF like the basis of your post so I say again if you don't like DF don't do it.

[Clarkamite]

I'm honestly at a loss for words as to how people are so lost as to what you are saying, Purrfect. I hear you and I think your "argument" is brilliant. For everyone else saying Purrfect is an elitist prick, calm down. You don't understand what is being said. What's being said is fair, no one is being attacked, no one is being told they need to get good, no one is complaining about DF groups being garbage. In fact, what is being said is simply an argument both sides should take note of. Everyone in this game is putting in some amount of time. Everyone SHOULD respect that and be aware of that. They won't but they should.

[Adire]

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Agreed. Some people have even admitted that they didn't read the entire OP after getting to a part they didn't like. How ignorant is that? Then they proceed to post their "opinion" about the OP after not reading, bash Purrfect with personal insults, and ignore anything she says because of the impression they get from what little they did read.

Just another day on the official forums!

[LTEvil]

I'm honestly at a loss for words as to how people are so lost as to what you are saying, Purrfect. I hear you and I think your "argument" is brilliant. For everyone else saying Purrfect is an elitist prick, calm down. You don't understand what is being said. What's being said is fair, no one is being attacked, no one is being told they need to get good, no one is complaining about DF groups being garbage. In fact, what is being said is simply an argument both sides should take note of. Everyone in this game is putting in some amount of time. Everyone SHOULD respect that and be aware of that. They won't but they should.

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