Quote Originally Posted by Ooshima View Post
Problem #1

When you ask "is anyone new or unsure about the mechanics?" at the start of the fight so that you could explain a little, 90% of those who are, doesn't say anything!
Yes, which is why I noted in my post that I found it's better to take a REACTIVE approach. That is, if people need help, I generally wait for THEM to speak up. As I myself have also experienced, all my DF parties when I was new, I will always ask for advice prior on any mechanic I am unsure of (even after I had researched it online). Others don't though - some generally try to "wing" it and give it their best shot with what information they have on hand. This WILL happen and you shouldn't try to twist your head if it does - just roll with it and do the best you can and let them do the best they can. You find a lot of NEW players going in for the first time ARE generally trying.

NO ONE should revert to name calling/slander, abusive chat if they see the DF instance is not passable - if you're not happy with how it's going, please respectfully state why and just vote to Abandon Duty and allow the new members try again at a later time, leaving their confidence intact - slandering them with offensive language will just have them DREAD the DF and they'll avoid it for fear of reproach.