1. Drop the "Battered wife syndrom" it's flat out insulting
2. I've explained this before but I feel no remorse or sympathy, or "Loss to the community" when someone stands up and sais "I'm out!" If you think the current player base aside from being a great place to get feedback from. Aside from that we are an extremly small "Few thousand overall?" fanbase. If everyone left for good there is still a good chance SE would continue work on the game and still re-launch it without us "Battered wives"
Overall we are not the crowd SE is trying to please in the end, they want a game that will detract people from WoW, Aion, whatever other MMO they are playing for a fresh experience. While it may be much harder to do without the grass roots word of mouth of the ultra faithfull playerbase. I can guarantee you there will still be plenty of people in this game to spread the word when the game gets good. People who cry and quit for any reason get nothing from me asides a "Hope you find something you do find fun in the future" because if they are not having fun right now, they SHOULD leave.
When someone leaves the game in a fit of rage they were never "The community" they left the community as soon as they decided the game was too much shit for them to handle anymore "The community" is no worse off when they leave. As for the "Cheering on our own demise" What can we as players do for that person? Plead them to stay? Plead them to just "Wait it out" Why in gods name would we do that to someone who doesn't want to play anymore.
If someone wants to quit, let them quit. If the game somehow fails because of that it's not our responsabillity as "The community" to try and keep dissenting members around, they are more poisonous to "The community" when they are bitter and want to leave the game but are just hanging around for some stupid reason. SE will never get the feedback they want from them, and they will never contribute to the community ever again, because they don't want to be here.
I think anyone who has "Battered wife syndrom" should pack up their shit and leave, your not doing us or the game any good. You do more leaving the game than you do playing it, at least when you leave your telling SE "This game is not good enough for me to even stay with". That is the loudest message you can send to SE not "This game sucks! I'm going to post on these forums and tell everyone IT SUCKS!"