My cure for the whole FATE ordeal is to simply not do it when they first come out. Everyone and their granddad joins in on them and it's always a big mess.

I waited until the last possible day to do the Lightning FATEs and it was a pretty good deal at that point without the herd tagging along.

Not that this changes your decision or anything, I just felt the need to share, is all. Needless to say, FATEs are more enjoyable after everyone's had their fill.