Blah blah blah elitist blah blah blah misused word.
Kicking a DPS from a titan group for having their AF gear on and aetheral rings is not being elitist, it's being factual. You factually cannot survive phase 5 tulmut with less than 3k HP.

"This makes people not want to join your shell or group or be your friend".

Good, if people have that attitude against us for asking them to have decent il60 gear from AK and to have attempted Titan HM or BC (that's experience) then we don't want to be your friend either.

Ever tried applying for a Good job, "Must have college degree and 8 years experience etc", it's the same concept. You want to join an FC with experience and progression expect to meet the requirements, no one likes to carry someone or retrain people. There are entry level jobs for that in the RL just like there are entry level FC's in the game.

RL concepts apply to an online game where people are setting goals and using their time to accomplish said goal. It's not just a game because your not doing it alone. In a single player game, fine, play the way you want. In an online game you need to meet expectations of others to play with others. If you don't like the expectations of them, then find others with expectations you are ok with.