To respond directly to the OP- Help is coming, but not rewards for inviting. Cross server content finder, lotting limitations, instant join mass battles and so on.

To reiterate the reality of elitism - Don't subject others to your inability to perform and you'll be fine. That's how to counter it. If you aren't ready to do Raven hard mode, don't join that pickup. On the other hand if your gear makes sense and isn't below being effective at whatever you are doing, no one actually cares.