I've never encountered this. If you ONLY do pick up groups, i can see this happening. but that's part of what makes playing an MMO fun. finding a good dedicated group of friends to play with.
I personally had every job at 50 except PLD and DRG. The two jobs I liked the most were BRD and WHM. everytime my LS did an event I was on one of these two jobs. We would occasionally ask people to switch jobs. but we asked. If they said no, we found another person with that job.
so in a nut shell: your mileage may vary. While this is a videogame, we're all still real people. so real-world lessons still apply. you get the experience out of the game that you put into it. if you're not taking the time to find a group that's right for you that's your problem. SE can't do anything about that. changing the armory system won't fix that problem, because that just means people will level 5 different characters to have 5 different jobs, rather than having one character with all 5.
Never had this experience. everyone i know has never had this experience. I understand you want to be a unique snowflake. but if you take a step back all snow flakes start to look the same.
if you dont' feel accomplished with having carbuncle just because other people have carbuncle you have a case of the e-peenitis. get over it >.>
This is the same as point 1. find a good group. WHM was the second job I had at 50. after mnk. while I was leveling my other jobs I never had to switch to whm. If anything, I would say (In an SB pt) "Let me get my War/Brd/whatever to 50 and then i'll switch to whm and help out" but that's courteous. i don't HAVE to do that.
same as point 2.
No, I think most of us get it. you want to be a unique snow flake in the game and be the only summoner left in the world. sorry. not going to happen. a lot of people will level summoner when it comes out. but then they'll get over it and switch back to their main.
not everyone wants to be a summoner. so just relax.
it's not easy to be good at any job. but some people have a different definition of 'good' if all your doing is leveling, than yeah. I'll agree with that. but once you start trying to do Garuda, Darnus, etc. you can really see weaknesses. I cannot agree with this.
in FFXI it took me 4 years of playing off and on to get my first 75. it took FOREVER. but that's mainly because i didn't know what i was doing, and i spent the majority of my time questing and helping my LS mates.
my second job to 75 took a week. Almost everyone I knew with multiple jobs at 75 had those jobs and swapped to those jobs because they WANTED to. if they didn't want to they didn't. end of story. that's been my experience in FFXIV as well.
As someone who understands how stats worked int he game, simply getting a Garuda bow did not make you a good archer. the rest of your gear kit and skill level made a BIG difference.
As an example. after the servers shut down my LS did a garuda run for giggles. we had an AF only BLM rocking a relic staff. I had my storm LT bow and I out-damaged the blm. on BRD >.> so having some epic gear doesn't automatically make you top tier.