Bullying on FFXIV

[Aethelinda]

Ah, this thread is depressing. Not because it's a "lost cause"or anything similar (which I think it isn't), but because I can relate to the OP.

I've been bullied in the past, I've witnessed bullying in the past, and neither has been a pleasant experience.

In my opinion, the worst thing you can do to a bully is bite back. Things just get further riled up and it gets more dramatic.
In the case of the forums, that means instead hitting the "report" button, which can be found in the bottom left hand corner of every post. I've used it a few times myself and it has always seemed to pay off better than witnessing others reach to the alternatives.

Very good advice. In the forums part, I have used the report button myself and it does work. ^^
Thanks for the heads up!

[Presbytier]

I actually didn't know that was a thing either.

There is an awareness month for just about everything anymore. We are a society aware of everything, but too apathetic to do anything.

[Aethelinda]

Yeah, mods usually delete his posts but stick around, you'll see in due time

Wow Elexia, you were so right. Glad they do. Again thanks for the heads up!! :*

[Aethelinda]

Wish i had read all this yesterday night.... this completelly true, specially about dont retaliate at them even when one has proof, sadly to me yesterday they just finally got me to rage and i started a whole thread, you know i regret it now, after all i doubt it solved anything and now its made public and in the end my reputation ended even more hurted without get any help, seriously.

Sorry about that . Be strong, I know is hard but people will forget eventually. You seem like a nice person so I know it will get fixed very soon.

[strallaalaa]

this thread is a lost cause, though you might want to change the title to evilution of the weak minded. apparently nothing will change from this thread, awareness of personality? people have the right to let lose on the internet and be themselves.

if you suck in a mmo, that means you probably wasted hours of someones time and if he wants to shout you suck then well that type of stuff happens, it's like saying the camera version of a movie on a site is horrible don't' waist your time downloading. there are like minded individuals that don't' want to deal with it. you can't force the world to play with you or get robbed of there time and not tell others. most might not shout it on the rooftops like a bully, but they have it in mind to never party with you and probably will say something when they have to, to ls members, or in a linkshell application, but i bet you think applications are bully pages too, you should read what they are all saying to you or about you sometimes in critiquing it.

if they are spending all day or days or weeks doing it then it's probably what i would consider bully'ing. if it's a single momentary outburst of you suck then whatever. you probably do, and if people really are saying negative things it's probably cause you did something...usually.

i say these things but i've never bullied anyone in my life or made fun of others, i probably spent most my 1st-4th grade being taunted by the same group till they graduated in 8th, i've also been shouted out in swtor for quiting a guild that wasn't up to my standards and they called me out when i was shouting for a new one and it stuck for the day or 2 i couldn't get a guild invite.

but i rather see these "bullies" in the world then lose any freedom at all on the internet. simple as that, don't like a way people poke fun blacklist and move on, i left a full linkshell even in ffxiv cause a couple that i didn't even know or remember playing with at all started to make these comments and jokes bout me and they did it enough that others started to think it was ok to do so. i just dropped pearl and done, never heard from any of them again. making a bigger deal out of something probably will just make a bigger deal from the other. i doubt any of this anti bully stuff works, it just makes things stick even more, make things way more memorable. tell them off, defend yourself, ignore it, but don't try to change the world it won't happen. i mean you hide behind the biggest bullies on the planet ...the usa ...lmao.

tldr, bullies bad, but this whole thread is worse.

[TnelisPotencia]

this thread is a lost cause, though you might want to change the title to evilution of the weak minded. apparently nothing will change from this thread, awareness of personality? people have the right to let lose on the internet and be themselves.

another casualty of bullying scarred for life. seems more to me like YOU are the lost cause, but dont give up hope, its still out there. people do care.

[strallaalaa]

another casualty of bullying scarred for life. seems more to me like YOU are the lost cause, but dont give up hope, its still out there. people do care.

lmao, i fear nothing and no one.(knowing when you can or can't win a fight or argument or outnumbers is another thing too) i have huge hopes but they aren't the same as yours witch is what you probably don't get. and another thing you don't get is people don't need to "care" they need to just respect each other, and deal with each other. chances are real life bullies have issues that you can probably blame on 1. there parents, 2. the school system and the way they like to keep our children dumb 3. society as a whole. ...is like trying to remove say the language french from a country that has a continuous flow of french people moving here. lol. you can't change people and there ways, you can only deal with it within yourself.

[Verytus]

Hello Everyone,

I have been reading over this thread, and like so many others, it has good ideas but people need to keep from personally attacking one another. If you believe someone is trolling, responding to their comments in any way only gives them what they're after. If you believe a person is violating our Terms of Use, please make a report to a moderator rather than responding, as engaging in an argument will likely only escalate the situation.

Clearly this is a very sensitive topic, so please remain respectful of one another and the opinions of other users. I have said it before here, but I will say it again: If you disagree with someone, feel free to make an argument, but please do not attack them personally. If this thread becomes too divisive and people continue to attack each other, the thread may need to be closed. Please continue to respect the other users on the forum and remember that everyone is entitled to their opinion, though it may differ from your own.

Thank you,

-Verytus

[Nidget]

lol. you can't change people and there ways, you can only deal with it within yourself.

You can. Give me blizzards real ID and make gas cheaper. There are bullies that take it a step further from the game and invade websites. So many fake ids just to spam and keep spamming, no matter how much you ignore them, they will find a way to disrupt your time b/c they have nothing in their life. All it would take is a location and a short drive and a broken nose later and they would never do that again.

When I see the shouts and the harassments, it pisses me off b/c they are not held accountable to their actions. They have no idea who it is that they belittle. Its a game to them. It would be worth my time to see the look on their face when it actually affects them personally.

This is the reason why SE should never go to Real IDs. I just wish the "bullies" would realize for once that someone can snap and do something stupid if given the chance.

Oh and for the people that love the "pics or it never happend". Show me a pic of jesus then.. lol

[Azurymber]

I think bullying sucks and I really wish it would stop on ffxiv.
Luckily my server has Klaus Volka, so whenever people get bullied he stands up for them and is all like "NO, NOT COOL"
Although he likes apple jack ;x not sure how that makes me feel

But yeah, this is an online -game- so everyone should like just like have fun you know? Mean girls is -such- a great movie because it shows the effect that bullying can have on people. And I think if everyone here watched mean girls they would stop being mean. You know what I'm saying?

I'm glad someone made a post like this. Because bullying is wrong!