Hello! It breaks my heart to read your struggle. I really wish the game had a native filter for all the creepy critters... I am in full support of this, even if I don't need it myself.

Look, we're not allowed to talk about this publicly, but I'll risk it... There's an arachnophobia filter mod that you can find extremely easily if you just Google it (it was the first or second result for me).
You'd have to buy a PC license for the game (and a computer to play in, obviously...) and set up the actual programs needed for it to run, but it is there if you can possibly make it work.

I know it is not easy to get your hands on an entire PC setup and a new license to boot, but depending on your country and area you may find some fairly decent deals on PCs that don't quite run the new stuff super smooth but should suffice for your roulette needs. You also can still use your controller and TV as a monitor, so don't worry about getting a "full" setup. The PC itself without any extra bells and whistles should get the job done. You can also wait to get the license during a sale to save some bucks.
I really wish you the best and I hope they chill out with the leggy enemies in future content!

Yes, yes, modding is bad, absolutely never do it and you never heard any of this from me, pls don't smite me GMs, etc. etc.

Also, ditch that so-called "friend". A friend doesn't mess with you like that. Especially when your case gives you so much grief...
Considering we're both in Chaos DC, feel free to reach out anytime you need help. I can run any job and I have very understanding friends willing to help you out anytime.

Somewhat unrelated, but I'm terribly curious... if you don't mind, what is the code word you use for them? No need to answer if it upsets you.