Healer

I can probably give the best anxiety advice about healing because I'm a mediocre to poor healer, and I 'tried' to heal quite a bit before I stopped playing.

Recommendation #1, if you've still got your sprout 'heal-heal-heal' (wish I'd been given that advice... I want my sprout back! Do"X )
  • No one has the right to criticise, especially criticise a healer. You can do no wrong! So just give it your best.

    You are the only role that has any job to do or 'any' responsibility. for a 100 levels and six expansions of casual/normal/standard content. Tank has a mutilated hands worth of LB3s that the other tank can usually carry their ass on anyway. DPS, you might give it your all but you know you can play as badly as you like your ass will be carried by the healer and tank if necessary never mind the other DPS. Tank maybe has a job to do in alliances, again the other tanks can probably carry their ass, and if they can't then they won't be the only tank that looks a prat.

    Healer, if your struggling you know it probably is going to be noticed by your co healer or writ large in the party list with all those empty HP bars. So be kind to yourself, the others do have it easier.

    Also, there are so many ways the other jobs can make your life hard, and yeah its not clear its their fault. (No one except the BLM is allowed to stand in the orange poop. DPS if your HP is going down at all in mobs your playing crap at that moment. Don't feel bad you can get better, and it doesn't matter, but your playing crap. The chances are the tank has the agro so why are you getting hit?)

  • Don't be afraid to warn the tank they should maybe go slow if its a dungeon. Again your the only one doing a proper job so ignore any unlikely criticsm after that. And if they go fast and it goes wrong they are just not that good at their job.
  • Allow it to go wrong. Be kind to your self. Again it is a hard job, its the only hard job in standard content. We don't have enough KOs in dungeons, many of us will be glad of a wipe to shake things up.

  • choose your instances and don't rush into roul if that makes you feel better. Play to enjoy not to grind dailys.

  • don't feel bad because at least your not as bad as me.

  • If a DPS or Tank is criticising you, your entitled to assume they've got no idea what healing is about and should shut the F up. Healers will remember what its like to be learning, and if an experienced healer is judging you then then either they are an a-hole supreme to not give you the same break they were given, or they a a gifted healer, but one with an embarrassing lack of self-awareness about their own gits.