With Apologies to Sena Bryer

[Midare]

I am only ever bothered by it if someone is intentionally calling me the wrong thing. All I ask is that people TRY. It may seem like something irrelevant to you, and that is completely okay, but to someone who will likely have to spend their entire life fighting just to be seen as they truly are it can be very upsetting and feel dehumanizing.

Again, none of this directed at you specifically, I'm simply talking in a very general since and replying to multiple post with this single one.

I can sympathize to some degree with the dislike of not being seen but personally, I'm old, and after spending my youth attempting for that I just realized... no one is seen for who they are.

I simply care if those I care about see me for who I am.

Mind you, I'm not telling you how to handle that feeling, everyone handles things in their own way, and I'm not in the same situation as you since each individual is their own world, I'm just expressing my own answer to that particular dilemma.

But also, more importantly. Just because someone can't do that for whatever reason, or they are set on not wanting to do that, don't take it to heart for yourself, you'll save yourself a lot of stress, that's my opinion.

What I find really weird is that I have literally never run into someone in game who doesn't understand this basic concept, it's genuinely never been a problem for me and my trans girlfriend, and why we enjoy this game and its community so much. These forums and my experience in game are like night and day. I'm sure when you said you were shocked by the comments you saw here it was probably because your experience is the same as mine/my girlfriend's. I truly have no idea where these people are in game, because I have personally never seen them.

You on the other hand...

Have shown again and again a lack of common decency and level headedness, not to mention lack of self awareness.

When you see behavior you don't personally agree with, you double down which achieves nothing.

And when someone tries to explain that what you do it's bound to backfire, you call it a proof that they hate the community.

I get it, when all you got it's a hammer, everything starts looking an awful lot like nails, but that approach usually doesn't work for long.