Quote Originally Posted by sindriiisgaming View Post
the thing about the community is, youre part of it. and if theres something you dont like about it you can be the example. you can be the 1 person whos different. and then if other similar people come into the game looking for people who think the way you do you are always there. i would say in this case seek out similarly minded individuals. but if the thing that makes you "you" is just saying ffxiv is bad, i think that will push people away. not saying YOU do this, but its common here on these forums. and then people are like "HUHH???" when nobody wants to rally to there cause.
I would describe me as a generally kind and helpful person in rl and also ingame with a great amount of patience, common sense and a tolerance to a certain amount of people's bs. But I'm sure we all have our limits.
I never was one to bend my personality to someone else's will or liking. I wasn't raised that way by my parents and I certainly won't start the bending at my age now. Pretending to be someone I'm not is just faking your personality. Something I greatly despise btw.

As for the "find similarly minded individuals"... I do already have two people close to me, but we all also found a lot of other like-minded individuals in the other mmo I mentioned.

As for example...
You stand in Limsa and ask a question in the map chat, maybe dumb question to veteran players. I noticed that more often than not the answers are pretty stupid, misleading or just disrespectful to new players, unless there won't be any answer at all. Not gonna mention the newbie chat, which is just downright toxic and ruled by drama lamas all over the place.

In the other mmo there actually were a lot of veteran players standing in the starter areas for new characters, already eagerly waiting to help newbies with all kinds of actual useful information, some players even handing out buff food randomly to total strangers for free just because it's a nice gesture. You need to tp to a destination far away and don't have the waypoint yet? No prob! Just ask and someone will put you into their party, tp to where you need to go so you can just tp to friend.

I think in this specific comparison the average age of players in both games plays a huge role in community behaviour.

Tho I'm aware it might be completely different on other servers in FF14 than on my home server.