You and SE must be on the same page, which I disagree with. It's a bit harsh and selfish to admit, but I don't want to play a game with the mentally obese. I want to play a game with people who can help themselves and don't whine when they have to put forth effort to get something done.
If you don't have the time for an MMO, because an MMO is naturally time-consuming, then don't play it. I don't know any other answer.