"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

[-Mira-]

In General most people I encountered are fairly chill helpful just want to play and have fun with friends and strangers alike.

Have had a few bad encounters that did make me nervous. Also a tank who fell out on me for not dps-ing good enough. I did my best but sometimes best as a group means adapting not always easy. Also had to learn things, we all have to learn stuff. Also got to admit am not always best at dodging some things idk if it is a ping thing or scatterbrain me not having seen it … or both? (Are they things?)

I remember a HW fight where I was a pretty floormat most of the time and the party making fun of me don’t remember where I went wrong but it did leave me a little traumatised for random encounters.

Also had some encounter… where some one accused me of weird stuff. Won’t even get into the details but that was because of some toxic stuff some couple went through and they liked making up weird untrue things about others to cause drama when they felt bored. That’s all you need to know. Luckily my friends knew me well enough that I wouldn’t act out like what they accused me of.

Still also good encounters were some help out pretty solid. Happy about that one. Am most comfy with friends who are cool with guiding me as it makes me feel a little more relaxed (am an anxious one) they are the best.

The best people in this game (met, or not met yet)are truly amazing and it is all of them I play for.

[JTWrenn]

The difference is that the ground rules, what is accepted as ok is very different from say WoW. The google it idiot standard is much much less accepted in FFXIV even with the influx of that crowd.

[jadeblade]

This is an mmo in the age of entitlement. The easiest way to get by is to interact with others as little as possible since everyone is offended by everything and SE likes to cater to every little hurt feeling if the "victim" wines loud enough. Can't tell you how many times I've had people scream obscenities (like sexist, borderline racial, and ERP-esque advances) yet they never have anything done to them since they still do it so openly and freely. Yet I get a strike because someone didn't like my corny joke of an LB macro.

When I first started, I was a lot more open in my interactions. Now a days I'm only out in the open world to do the few things I need to then I hide at my personal house. I avoid talking in DFs as much as possible because the GM team treats you as "guilty" even if it's a bogus report filed. I've had to snap at a GM and appeal my case before. If you're deemed "guilty" which you are the second the report is filed, then you can't do anything about it and it's forever attributed to your account.

They intentionally under inform you of whatever offence and use their non-existent excuse of a "privacy policy" to refuse to tell you pretty much anything. This approach makes the GM team essentially look at you like a walking money pile. We're not people. We're just money.

You can make friends and be social with them try by saying hi , if they are receptive then continue .it is really easy you know I pet lalas before I open conversation, if they respond to my pet that means we can go further like real world you know checking if a person is receptive before talking them ,you know,social skills, do you go to strangers and tell him noob get better or just talk to them just like you have been friends with them for 3 years. DF isn’t for social interaction and rather have FF14 GM heavy hand than toxic crap we have on wow.

[SturmChurro]

You can make friends and be social with them try by saying hi and opening conversations if they are receptive then continue .it is really easy you know I pet lalas before I open conversation, if they respond to my pet that means we can go further like real world you know checking if a person is receptive before talking them you k ow,social skills, do you go to strangers and tell him noob get better or just talk to them just like you have been friends with them for 3 years. DF isn’t for social interaction you know and rather have FF14 GM heavy hand than toxic crap we have on wow.

I've been pet or patted several times, and I never respond to them. Thought it was weird. Never knew that was a form of greeting.

[Makeda]

This is an mmo in the age of entitlement.

. . .

When I first started, I was a lot more open in my interactions. Now a days I'm only out in the open world to do the few things I need to then I hide at my personal house..

If your baseline for human interaction is to insult other people then yes, you can't be as "open" now here.

I've not had such issues.

But I also have never seen the idea of treating people with decency and respect as "entitlement"...

[jadeblade]

I've been pet or patted several times, and I never respond to them. Thought it was weird. Never knew that was a form of greeting.

Well if I emote you it means I am interested in you let’s talk, so if I don’t get an emote back, I would consider that person to not to be in the mood, it is the equivalent of look across in a bar checking if there is look back before approaching .

[Quintessa]

Most people are open and friendly, but it's true that some people are not. The heavy-handed harassment policies help to motivate the people who are not to be more polite.

Passive-aggressiveness is better than flat out saying something rude in my opinion.

I actually prefer people to be straight up rather than talking out the side of their mouths.

[Kansene]

Nobody's told me to kill myself yet.
Or kicked me from a roulette for playing a certain job.
Or told me my entire family should be diddled and murdered because I tagged a mob.

Beats WoW imo.

[SturmChurro]

Well if I emote you it means I am interested in you let’s talk, so if I don’t get an emote back, I would consider that person to not to be in the mood, it is the equivalent of look across in a bar checking if there is look back before approaching .

It will happen to me in like a hub, and I'm just thinking like, "who is this person?"..

[Haruka_R]

This game has me missing the DCUO community. Villain side Trade Chat was a wild good time. People I'm used to being around saying all types of funny shit. Funny bantering and arguing and stupidity all around.

This community is like another world. People here are weird, a bit high-strung, and very, very snobbish. And they constantly jump. I keep to myself and hide the chat window off as often as I can-- I simply cannot associate with such individuals. But the times I do have the chat unhidden, there's nothing too overly toxic going on, especially in Raids. The slightly toxic chats that I have seen though are in the Party Finders.

The toxicity is there. You just have to:
A) Look for it. And/Or B) Be in the ___ place at the ___ time.