"Swift completion" is relative to the game, not the community

[Elladie]

@Kolaina

Wow, snap judgements much lol.

I don't like duty finder because I'm an old old lady who remembers when people in MMOs had to work together and treat each other well because the only folks they could party with were on their server. If they got a reputation as a dick, no one would play with them. DF makes it much easier to treat people badly and get away with it.

I'm lucky I don't need to put up with the drama and bad behaviour I've seen in DF because I have enough friends and FC mates to run content with.

No phobias, just prefer to have fun and chill with my friends. We don't do drama when we run roulette. Sometimes we go slow. Sometimes we do stupid big pulls - yes Mt Gulg, looking at you. But it has become clear to us over the eleven years we have played this game that it grows increasingly more pleasant to stick to our own little group than try to interact with strangers. It makes us sad that it's so, but that is our experience.

It bothers me too that you find it necessary to belittle me and my point - that the duty finder can be toxic for some people - by making personal attacks. If you're that concerned about my state of mind, why don't you try and be a bit more sympathetic about this 'phobia' I supposedly have? I imagine that if I did have a genuine problem in that area and somehow found the courage to speak up, your words would have been very cruel and vicious

[Kolaina]

It bothers me too that you find it necessary to belittle me and my point

You said you and your friends avoid df because its toxic. That would insinuate its more wide spread than the odd isolated incident here and there. But I’m belittling? No. You just have this belief things are worse than they are. Refraining from participating with the df community while simultaneously staying in your echo chamber, does nothing to heal your previous experience and fix any misconceptions you have about the df community

[Elladie]

You said you and your friends avoid df because its toxic. That would insinuate its more wide spread than the odd isolated incident here and there. But I’m belittling? No. You just have this belief things are worse than they are. Refraining from participating with the df community while simultaneously staying in your echo chamber, does nothing to heal your previous experience and fix any misconceptions you have about the df community

That's great then. Glad we're on the same page. So presumably you will be sympathetic and encouraging next time you get a tank who's pulling a bit slower than you prefer, right. Try and coax them into pulling more and improving their skills yeah. Instead of telling them to 'do it or else' like these (apparently mostly imaginary) toxic people do?

As a bit more clarification, there is just as much toxicity (in my experience) on the other side. I'm all for balance, but I'd much prefer we tried to err on the side of courtesy. When another player tries to give polite and helpful advice, 'you don't pay my sub' is not an acceptable response.

I'm not sure why asking people to be respectful of each other causes such a backlash. It's very sad