"gogogo" might make me quit this game.

[Ronduwil]

That's not what they're referring to. There's always going to be one dps higher than the other. It's impossible to have them both be 2. The issue is when the healer is higher on that list than a dps, who's sole job is to do damage. That's how you can tell they are under performing.

Or maybe the WHM just threw down Medica II. That spell shoots me up to the top of the aggro list in no time. I don't know why you're looking down on other players for not pulling enough threat. If you get the three best DPS in the world in an instance, one of them is going to be at the bottom of the list at some point. The healer is also going to be above all of them in aggro at some time. Healing pulls much more aggro than damage.