Marriage Partner Hookup Megathread!

[Katie_Kitty]

Hey, next time just say you’re not interested instead of just saying “oh off to get food, brb” and unfriending. Ya know, having some decency to say to communicate and all that. It’ll be a common courtesy for the next person you roll by.

You are way too salty.

[SILVERx]

You are way too salty.

So you agree that people should just ditch anyone at the slightest inconvenience without remorse? Hm? I shouldn’t point this out so that they may not get anyone else’s hopes up of finding a companion in the game? I mean, I wouldn’t want anyone else to waste their time with someone who’ll just leave the next day, abandoning someone who planned to meet up and run content with, especially since they came to you asking for your time and attention. I mean, some people are trying to find others to hangout with and etc., why should that matter? I mean, certainly wouldn’t get a bit frustrated if someone just up and left you? Or anyone else who’s just looking for a friend? Hm?

[Katie_Kitty]

So you agree that people should just ditch anyone at the slightest inconvenience without remorse? Hm? I shouldn’t point this out so that they may not get anyone else’s hopes up of finding a companion in the game? I mean, I wouldn’t want anyone else to waste their time with someone who’ll just leave the next day, abandoning someone who planned to meet up and run content with, especially since they came to you asking for your time and attention. I mean, some people are trying to find others to hangout with and etc., why should that matter? I mean, certainly wouldn’t get a bit frustrated if someone just up and left you? Or anyone else who’s just looking for a friend? Hm?

You just met 'em. Who cares?

[Crusher14]

New partner to play with

Server: Exodus (Primal datacenter)

Willing to transfer?: Nope, but can server hop in the same datacenter for sure!

Personal Interests: Gaming, outdoor activities whenever its possible, anime lover, making friends, just overall having a great time.

Play schedule: Anytime really, though I will try to let you know when I cant. MST time also for those that care about that.

What kind of gamer are you: Midcore type, but can downgrade to casual(not too much though) or try and be a little hardcore if possible.

Character Gender: In game Male, IRL M

Do you care if the player in real life is not the same gender as their character? Not really, unless we want to change gender or something. Only requirement is to be Female IRL.

Character Race: Male Hyur, but again open to switching if my partner so wishes to me.

Preferred race: Any, but I'd say except hroth or roe.

Main class?: A caster, but I'd say SMN/RDM for now, I can play any role well enough though.

Age: 27

Dislikes: Standard things: cheaters, liars, dishonest people from the start, one word replies for most conversations, ghosting, and manipulative people.

Goals for the game: Have fun together, play whenever we can, hang out, take pics etc. be good companions to each other! Most importantly be consistent please. i can do RP either way, just have a little patience on me. I'd like someone we could do EW together with.

Goals for the marriage union: The marriage can come at a later time, no rush on that. I'd like friendship first if you prefer that route, I am open to a relationship in game or IRL if we get to that point. But for now, just need a girl to play the game together with, and have fun!

Etc: Discord is: Night S#2673. One other thing, space between Night and S for those on phone! Will delete this, when I become unavailable! Don't hesitate to add me!

[Thinslayer]

You just met 'em. Who cares?

He cares. Valuable time that SILVERx could have spent playing the game and having fun was instead spent waiting for someone who would never return. For working adults, that time is often short and precious. Research has shown that it takes about 20 minutes for the body to register changes to its stomach volume, so if I were him, I'd allocate up to ~20 minutes to wait for someone who's gone to get food. That's a substantial chunk of time to waste. Even without marriage considerations on the table, it's still a rude way to treat someone. If we include marriage considerations, that kind of disregard for people's time is often a red flag that would turn people off to the match.

That being said, SILVERx, publicly shaming the individual for a personal offense isn't fair or kind. If on the off-chance they had a valid reason for ghosting (e.g., tyrant parents found them out, you were creepy, life got in the way, etc.), they'll be outcast over something that wasn't their fault. So consider instead resolving your concerns with her privately before bringing them to a public forum. You could even give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she had a good reason for ghosting, unlikely though that is nowadays.

So, I guess what I'm saying is: @Katie_Kitty, have some empathy for SILVERx, and @SILVERx, give SinisterGold the benefit of the doubt, or resolve your concerns privately with her. I'm not seeing any useful benefit to be gained in arguing the matter publicly.

[SILVERx]

So, I guess what I'm saying is: @Katie_Kitty, have some empathy for SILVERx, and @SILVERx, give SinisterGold the benefit of the doubt, or resolve your concerns privately with her. I'm not seeing any useful benefit to be gained in arguing the matter publicly.

Thank you for that. And I would do as such, but seeing as how they chose to remove me from contacting them on Discord, I’s say that’s out of the question. Also, this isn’t the only time this is happening. I tell them what I’m looking for, which isn’t much to ask for, and they agree as if they’re of the same mind. But in the end, they disappear; especially after showing up in MY Discord to ask for my time and then come back here as if nothing happened. So yes, by default and as a public warning, I’ll call them out. Looking for a friend to RP and spend time with should not be this difficult. If you don’t agree with someone’s options, then say so. Don’t falsely commit and then do a U-turn without explanation. I’m trying to be nice and open to everyone, yet this is what happens.

[Wavaryen]

He cares. Valuable time that SILVERx could have spent playing the game and having fun was instead spent waiting for someone who would never return. For working adults, that time is often short and precious. Research has shown that it takes about 20 minutes for the body to register changes to its stomach volume, so if I were him, I'd allocate up to ~20 minutes to wait for someone who's gone to get food. That's a substantial chunk of time to waste. Even without marriage considerations on the table, it's still a rude way to treat someone. If we include marriage considerations, that kind of disregard for people's time is often a red flag that would turn people off to the match.

That being said, SILVERx, publicly shaming the individual for a personal offense isn't fair or kind. If on the off-chance they had a valid reason for ghosting (e.g., tyrant parents found them out, you were creepy, life got in the way, etc.), they'll be outcast over something that wasn't their fault. So consider instead resolving your concerns with her privately before bringing them to a public forum. You could even give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she had a good reason for ghosting, unlikely though that is nowadays.

So, I guess what I'm saying is: @Katie_Kitty, have some empathy for SILVERx, and @SILVERx, give SinisterGold the benefit of the doubt, or resolve your concerns privately with her. I'm not seeing any useful benefit to be gained in arguing the matter publicly.

Video games are a waste of time, So I don't really agree with the whole time wasting thing to be upset about.

It is a good lesson though for everyone to see. Match Making, hookup, dating whatever. It is not a marriage, and some people just can't handle putting people down easily. I'm not saying anyone is at fault...but some people go into stuff like this with heart on the line and it is easily hurt. The person clearly did not like him, and that is fine. They was not brave enough to turn him down, that could be because she had to deal with unstable guys before. Could be many reasons why she picked to do it like this. It is hard, but being understanding and just moving on is the best thing to do.

[Thinslayer]

Video games are a waste of time, So I don't really agree with the whole time wasting thing to be upset about.

Dem's fightin' words, boi! xD But I get what you're saying. Video games are a leisure medium with benefits we can't easily measure - and as such, discussions on the value of time spent playing video games are of dubious benefit.

[SILVERx]

Video games are a waste of time, So I don't really agree with the whole time wasting thing to be upset about.
The person clearly did not like him, and that is fine. They was not brave enough to turn him down, that could be because she had to deal with unstable guys before. Could be many reasons why she picked to do it like this. It is hard, but being understanding and just moving on is the best thing to do.

Yet at the same time he is still in the wrong for leading this on and ditching. Also, not right to assume every person is going to react bad to saying “no”. I’m not reacting well to people just up and leaving; saying one thing to be my friend and potential partner, and then doing the complete opposite, while keeping me waiting for them to show up. So yes, I’ll be frustrated if this kept happening over and over, which it has. Do they do this to everyone? I’ll think as such if this is the thing someone needs to do when I have nothing but good intentions.

[Wavaryen]

Yet at the same time he is still in the wrong for leading this on and ditching. Also, not right to assume every person is going to react bad to saying “no”. I’m not reacting well to people just up and leaving; saying one thing to be my friend and potential partner, and then doing the complete opposite, while keeping me waiting for them to show up. So yes, I’ll be frustrated if this kept happening over and over, which it has. Do they do this to everyone? I’ll think as such if this is the thing someone needs to do when I have nothing but good intentions.

That is understandable. And I wish everyone was brave enough to turn someone down. I just wonder what happen to them that cause them to do things like this, or if they just don't want to deal with the issue. Either way, I am totally understanding how you feel. The only thing you can do is harden your heart for the next time so that it does not irk you as bad.