Final Fantasy XIV and a Culture of Enabling

[Awha]

My post was more about telling people why they shouldn't expect anyone to be open about their disability with random people in an online game rather than a defense for poor performance. Most people with disabilities experience some manner of prejudice in real life, and as we know online people tend to have a much looser filter when it comes to insensitive comments. When a person knows the kind of things people like me deal with irl, they're more understanding of why we're often quiet about having a disability when in a random group in an online game.

As for contributing to my raid team regardless of disability, I wish that was true. We have had wipes because my finger twitched or my hand locked up at a bad time. We have had to end some raids early or cancel them because I was in too much pain. There was a three week period at the start of the expansion in which I was unable to even play never mind raid. Our raids are only two hours long because of me. But the people I'm with are okay with all of this, we're not a competitive team. We just want to get our kills with some laughs along the way. I'm very lucky to have a team full of good people who are willing to put up with my limitations. Though the flip side is that when my disability doesn't get in the way my performance is typically more than enough to deal with savage so we can make up for lost time when I am doing okay.



Not by all though, some here assume playing badly = must be a leech. Some people have legitimately valid reasons for poor performance and some people's best is a very low bar. I hate it as well when I encounter someone who is performing very badly but my first reaction isn't "omg a leech". I reserve that opinion for when someone is clearly offended that they're expected to have performance that is adequate for the content they're doing. I found in DF that most people make silly mistakes they otherwise would not do or are unaware that they're even making them. While the latter is certainly a problem this does not qualify someone to be seen as knowingly having parasitic behaviour.

That is the thing if someone's bar is that low why is it alright to tell other with higher standards to queue with friends or use PF, but pushing the same standard on those with lower standards gets met with push back?

I really do not care so much how people play, how they play and the reason is on them. Though just because I do not care how they play does not mean I should not kick them from the group when I do not do not want to deal with them.