I did a puppet bunker run. It wound up being posted. Which made me happy. As I was looking over my MCH DPS versus a better(more support from party) MCH. I realized that while I had a DNC in my party (I wasn't partnered despite best DPS in my party, but I digress), I only received one technical finish throughout the whole first fight. I took it as I must have been out of range and needed to pay more attention to my positioning. But just in case, I looked at the DNC in questions damage and buffs. Turns out he only had 1 technical step in the whole raid and just wasn't playing well.

I was helping an FC mate with their healer damage in the same raid, first fight. They had 60 casts of glare on their WHM which I thought was decent. Again, just as a thought, I had them reference a savage raider in our FC. While not apples to apples, they had 82 casts of broil. The point of reference still helped to build an understanding of comfortable DPS as a healer. They also learned that they clip their Dia casts too early looking at the amount of tics versus casts.

Having these answer to the 'why' are important. And if you can't agree to find a way to meet in the middle at the very least, you are naive.