First thing I think when I read the OP was "English grammar: please check it". Second thing I think is "Another 'lack of enmity control thread', ho-hum". Final thing I think is "text language and smiley faces don't make you less hostile, just make you look stupid".

There's a little phrase that has been going around on MMOs for a while: "When the tank dies, it's the healer's fault; if the healer dies, it's the tank fault; if the DPS dies, it's their own fault". So if you're THM and you're pulling hate and wind up dead, guess who's fault it is? That's right.