Quote Originally Posted by Penthea View Post
Oh god I remember those days. I recall once I thanked a mage for the water they conjured for me and a hunter said something like "why are you thanking him for just doing his job?". This was in my early days of mmos and I was quite surprised that he was offended that I thanked someone for something. I played a mage for a while and my gaming rig wasn't great at the time so my load times were a bit long. I once loaded into a dungeon and the healer was saying "mage where is my water? why haven't you traded me yet?". My load times were a bit longer than most players, but not THAT long. I miss some things about WoW...but definitely not stuff like that. Not that FFXIV is perfect! There are certainly some things that happen here that I didn't deal with much in WoW, but that's another topic altogether.

And no I don't look down on people who do everything in silence, but I certainly don't resonate with the sort of attitude in which you should never give appreciation to someone doing something good for the group.
I was one or those players, even IRL I scratch my head when people thank me for performing my role or doing my job. I do not get offended, but it does make sense to me in the slightest.

On tbe topic I do agree communication is key. Just at times it seems like a gamble and over time I have noticed that many seem to operate on the notion it is better to ask for forgiveness instead of permission. In the sense if tanking if the group forces it on the tank and it is successful pull and they still refuse to do larger pulls people will view them as being a bad, lazy, snowflake tank. Though if one asks they run the risk of them saying no without even trying to see if the group would falter.

It is a rough spot to be in at times.