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  1. #51
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gwenorai View Post
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    For what it's worth, I kind of ???'d at first too because there is a level where it gets to be unhealthy. But then I kind of stepped back and thought about the context, what OP's actually doing in practice, and what language is being used.

    Maybe I'm off-base, but this kind of reads to me like someone who might not be as experienced with fictional crushes getting hit with it for the first time at a later age than most folks.

    I mean, when I was a teenager I got stupid dramatic about fictional crush stuff. That experience gave some context though and things kind of mellowed afterward. Some was hormones sure, but honestly it still probably would have caught me off-guard if it happened for the first time when I was older.

    To some degree, part of the joke about husbandos/waifus is that they get taken way too seriously lol. It's why people act mortified if someone says "your waifu is shit". So taking it in that light plus the impression this is a normie (so to speak) who's experiencing this for the first time, it becomes not as worrying I think. A regular person who otherwise didn't know this is a thing might assume it's in line with object-marriages or whatever because the concept is novel. In practice though it's more like people swooning over Mr. Darcy or something.

    It's important to compartmentalize and to remember that a fictional character, as much as you might adore them, will never have the same depth as a real human being. When you know and are confident in this, it becomes a different kind of love and pretty innocuous.
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    Cant wait for the parody of this thread on a certain subreddit.
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  3. #53
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    My only crush is my character and... somehow Feo Ul. So weird! Yeah I know

    Feo Ul... it all because to the warning she gives to her sisters about my inventory. Sound fun to me
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  4. #54
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    Quote Originally Posted by brasteir View Post
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    I never said I found it weird, I said it was unhealthy - and it has been proven to be unhealthy with the points I've put forward. Though, now that we're here. Yes, I find it weird and illogical to love something that doesn't truly exist, that can't give you affection back outside of the original programming without intervention, and finally not be able to respond or give you what you seek that is the key to a healthy relationship. If you think I'm trolling because I find a relationship that has zero positives other than a sense of one-sided satisfaction that can't be pursued without causing mental diress then that's on you. Stay in the clouds, bud and stop projecting.

    P.S I also never said anything that would imply that I actually cared. I wrote that post as I do with all my posts, scientific and lacking most emotion. Only the last part has even a hint of it and that certainly doesn't go out of the way to show my 'concern.' I'm more interested in if this is a troll or not. Unless you're referring to the LBGT stuff, then yes, I do care. Because I'm a part of it.

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    Also, fictional romance. Hi, I romanced Morrigan DA:O, in DAII I romanced Merill. In Mass Effect I romanced Liara. In Fire Emblem, I'm planning to go after Claud. In Cyberpunk I'm planning to romance everyone I can. I also have a crush on Emet, and Hwoarang & Steve from Tekken. When I was a teenage girl I fangirled over Cloud Strife. So, guess that sinks your straw man argument. You can romance fictional characters in games, 'wifu' and 'husbandos' it's another thing to actually develop a relationship that's so intense that you are, as in yourself and not the character you created, in true love with them. So, again. Don't assume you know my motives.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jaywalker View Post
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    I thought so as well, the wording was something that was rather intense and thus had me thinking that it was a troll. Everyone has these sorts of crushes, it what happens when a lot of our entertainment is from fictional characters. However, there's a line where a simple crush and the likes become unhealthy and an obsession. Again, if this isn't romantic love - then go ahead. If it is, then I'd ask why on earth this would be on par with the relationship they have with their SO.

    Anyway, I'm still of a mind to think it's a joke post or something. Some good quality bait.

    tldr: I don't mind people romancing chars in games with their characters or crushing. I do find it unhealthy and weird when someone gets obsessed and develops romantic and 'true love' for a fictional character.
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    Last edited by Gwenorai; 08-09-2019 at 01:20 AM.

  5. #55
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    I don't see anything wrong with this.
    Even if a character is fictional they still have a personality and an appearance which can be attractive to some.

    My longest crush was (and probably still is) a game character. Not FFXIV but still a fictional character nontheless.
    I also had a huge crush on Papalymo when I was playing ARR and my bf was admiring Aymeric for the entire HW :'D

    Unless someone is completely obsessed with a character I don't think it's strange to be attached to one.
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  6. #56
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gwenorai View Post
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    "Proven" uh huh using projection on your part. Just because you'd develop depression doesn't mean the OP would. So uh yeah "Hi!" get lost.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jaywalker View Post
    For people into ladies it's waifus.
    Excuse you. I'm gay and I have a dozen Waifus.
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  8. #58
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    Quote Originally Posted by brasteir View Post
    "Proven" uh huh using projection on your part. Just because you'd develop depression doesn't mean the OP would. So uh yeah "Hi!" get lost.
    Lol bye~ 10/chars
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  9. #59
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gwenorai View Post
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    Lol you might be right, I've admittedly lost my touch with ID'ing troll posts over the years. Seen too many legit weird people. Figure if it is a troll post might as well laugh at that too, like getting caught in an April Fool's prank.

    If it's sincere, hopefully OP manages to keep things light and fun with the fictional nature in perspective. Fantasy's fine, just need to remember it's a fantasy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lumivyory View Post
    I don't see anything wrong with this.
    Even if a character is fictional they still have a personality and an appearance which can be attractive to some.

    My longest crush was (and probably still is) a game character. Not FFXIV but still a fictional character nontheless.
    I also had a huge crush on Papalymo when I was playing ARR and my bf was admiring Aymeric for the entire HW :'D

    Unless someone is completely obsessed with a character I don't think it's strange to be attached to one.
    Yeah I mean I get like there are some people out there who'd go and burn down a building because their favorite character was killed off but like some people are getting way too dramatic to try and appear like an authority on "healthy behavior". It's really lame.
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