I'll tell you guys what I tell the dps/healer when I am the tank. "I don't do baby pulls". The only time I tone it back is when the healer seriously cannot actually handle the pulls, and that is entirely their fault since I have done them so many times. As I say it, "trial by fire". I'm going to pull big and YOU are going to adapt, they won't learn to do aoe unless they are forced to learn. Holding back just promotes this behavior. If I get kicked, I get kicked. I'll find a new group.

Healers most definitely NEED to be doing dps, especially when there are some dead weight dps that are being carried. I was progging Titania for a friend of mine last night, and if we didn't have the healers making up for the lack of dps from the melee we would most definitely NOT killed before enrage - and we didn't for several tries. Even if the DPS can pull their weight, the healers should still be doing DPS wherever possible to make the fight end faster. More mechanics means more chances for mistakes.